Confidence and How to improve self-esteem
Improving your esteem As human beings we have all been there when we only feel confident around people we know or are comfortable with, that’s because we tend to scan our environment in order to access where we actually stand in our environment with confidence if we can relate to it? Don’t worry you are not alone in this! we all are confident and loud around the people we know. because there’s a suitable environment and comfort we experience around people we know.
unless we find ourselves between totally different environments and people, we feel resistance!
and that invisible pole of Approval again appears! we stuck in that loop again, And you start asking yourself
where do you belong in that environment according to that pole?
- Top
- Middle
- Bottom
Based on where you find yourself you decide your certain amount of charisma, confidence, and expression
Where did that charisma go?
You are about to learn because today we are focusing on the Rising level of -assurance, cultivate your core dignity which leads you to relay only your situational confidence
You will learn [confidence guide]:
- How to break free?
- How not stop by your environment?
I am not going to give you any kind of mainstream bullshit like 5 tips to be cool”. How to feel Confidence? with these 9 steps, and so on. Because today we are going to dive deep into this rabbit hole. At and end of this you will know what most people don’t.
Why is it that we all have low self-esteem and confidence, to begin with?
Let’s be honest we all have low self-esteem. Of course, there’s a graph showing how low that actually is. in simple words, we are what we feel. We came to this world where are rules, guidelines, and principles. that are good by the way to run the society or world because without it the world would be in chaos. but the way we consume information those rules through punishment or reward changed everything.
Why Are Rewards Evil?
As we all know! we get appreciation when we do something good and punishment when something bad. let’s understand this by example your parents and teachers praise you when you do something good by saying. Well done, good job, etc. And bad or to be quiet as a punishment and that affects your internal beliefs.
you may or may not feel it
So, what does that do to you?
Well in simple words, that makes you feel you’re only good at your acceptable part of you!
not your unacceptable part. and you have to justify your existence and be good in everyone’s eyes.
and now, you’re afraid people will see the unacceptable part of you and fear in your eyes.
So what’s the cure?
Know you know the following points:-
- Where low self-esteem comes from?
- why are we like that?
As I told you already, I’m not going to give you any kind of mainstream solution! to get any kind of fake approval so, here I’m about to give you my own proven tactics that are going to change your entire game.
The art of self-esteem is actually Inside Out work!
As internal always color your external simply self-esteem comes from internal to the external approach
We see people two types of people around in our society showing off their self-esteem
- Toxic self-esteem:- People Who bring others down so as to make themselves look more valuable which is a toxic example of self-esteem.
- Enhancing oneself: They are the ones who want to show their existence by having more than others, doing more than others and they never feel complete.
Letting go is the real key!
Just don’t say I will be good enough (if).
I can’t be better (unless)
Remember! there is not any requirement or condition. because you can’t believe it or become it you just can realize it.
Conclusion
Situational confidence; is something from which we all are suffering in this society. it’s just because the way we consume information leading you to judge yourself or self-sabotaging when you’re not in your comfort zone the only key to break free from this is to understand you’re enough, you have to realize it neither you can believe it nor become it all you can do just realize it.
Vishal Baurai
