The way I see it, both things are true. You are going to want to try to give the best to your children, and not having the means to do that is going to make your (and possibly their) lives more painful. That said, you will never love or want them less because of this, and their opportunity to learn from not having every advantage and every luxury their friends might have could be just the thing to let them grow into stronger more sensible people. There is a fine line here and it is different for every parent. The main thing is never to let your children think that your sacrifices for them are made grudgingly. You chose the life you brought them into and you made the best of what you had for you and for them. That is all any of us can really do in the end.