How Your Family Shaped Your Mindsets
You spent your formative years in the family nest, where you learned the fundamentals of life. In your family, you’ve learned how to interact with others, submit to authority, good and bad manners (according to your family and culture), etc. In the process, your mind was “molded”.
In fact, the formative years played a crucial role in shaping your attitudes, dispositions, and beliefs. Thus, your mindsets were greatly influenced by your family legacy.
As soon as you became of age to understand your world — and this might not be too long after you came out of the womb — your family started the programming of your mind. And through observation and inculcation, you modeled many of your thought processes after members of your family.
More specifically, as you grew up, your primary caregivers transferred to you their values, beliefs, and habits, which helped form your mindsets. As you weren’t mature enough to separate the “wheat from the chaff”, you’ve adopted both empowering and disempowering mindsets.
Of course, if you were fortunate to be born to parents with extraordinary mindsets, you may have adopted, by osmosis, mostly positive mindsets — at least you were exposed to them for a long enough period of time for them to leave a residue in you.
They say that “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree”. If you analyze your family history and analyze the way your family members interacted with one another and the decisions they made, you can gain insights into the mindsets you’ve inherited.
The good news is that, as an adult, you can choose your own mindsets. That toxicity infected your family doesn’t mean you have to remain a prisoner of destructive mindsets. With the insights you gain from your family history, you can better work at cultivating empowering mindsets; you know which family demons you have to fight, so to speak.
In addition, understanding the role your family played in shaping your mindsets reinforces the importance of carefully selecting the mindsets you cultivate in your own life. In fact, the same way your family impacted on your mindsets, you’ll impact your kids’ mindsets (and possibly that of the next generation).
Thus, breaking free from destructive mindsets and cultivating empowering ones, not only benefits you but also your descendants. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
By cultivating positive mindsets, you improve your life and become a great world model for the next generation.