Knowing that We’re all Alone
When I was a kid my parents insisted that I don’t compare myself with my peers in terms of the wealth their families possess, or how blessed they were with accessibility to several facilities that I wasn’t, hurts a lot in the long term. What we should compare is our achievement on a playing field that’s on level with them.
At that moment this theory seemed like a stupid idea, because, well, everyone wants to have happiness in their lives the easier way. Achieving something sounds so intense and arduous, that at that point in our lives, we don’t consider efforts as the nice ideas one should have to live well.
Now that I’m all grown up, I do agree with them, but only to a certain extent. The thing they do that still pisses me off is ironically, comparison. But how?They compare my academic and monetary achievements with the so-called ‘geniuses’ in their social circles, and I think it’s okay that like doing this. They preferred this before too, and their idea of comparison was severely limited to things, the access to which would make me lazy. But what they did not realize was that any kind of indirect social pressure would either kill a person or make them lazy.
My idea of comparison is non-existent. I think if there’s someone who can help you track progress in some way, it’s you in your past. And obviously, if we’re better than the person we were before, it’s more positivity coming your way. While that doesn’t mean you’ll be happy or blissful, but that does mean you’re growing. And I don’t know a single person who doesn’t want that.
Sometimes, we take decisions for our lives based on the repercussions in other lives, but just as comparison is bad for the wrong things in life, it’s bad for the right things too. You don’t decide to leave a company just when a friend of yours there decides to do that, because you’re not in the same situation as him. It might be a great decision for him, but an un-calculated and risky decision for you.
Which leaves us with only one thing that we can surely trust: our conscience. It always helps us make the right decision for us, and time and again reminds us of the fact that we, as individuals, have to play our own games and win our own battles more often than others who may do that for us at times, and not always.