Does Love exist without Kindness?
I grew up in a family where temples and traditions were the norms. Both my parents come from families with deep-rooted connections to that of a typical Hindu family. Naturally, they transferred their belief to us. However, what my father taught was not his religious beliefs. He taught us two things- love and kindness. He taught us that it is okay to not have faith in God, worship a God, or not believe in the existence of one as long as you don’t harm others. He taught us kindness, the very essence of love. Love exists only when someone is (can be) kind.
The reason for this topic is very simple. I have had this experience where people believe that since I continue to hold my faith to little Krishna who mesmerized me since childhood (due to my most enchanting storyteller dad, which is for a later post), they assume that I would not agree with someone who is an atheist or an agnostic.
Why? I wonder out loud everytime they complain to me about the apparent lack of faith in someone else. Why should that bother them? (also why would they think that I side them too).
God is a ‘mystic’ being created by man. I say this because, every creation occurs because of the power of human minds. The creation of God is also one such example of power of a mind. My experiences in life help me hold on to that mystic being, but for the rational mind, the abstractness is inundated by the reasoning of a logical thought. That being said, the ones who believe have our own reasons and logic too. Coming to the point about atheists or agnostics, this belief system does not mean they are bad or immoral human beings. In fact, there was a research conducted a couple of years ago among children who belong to families of certain faith and those who were atheists. The research was on finding the altruistic nature among the kids from these family. The general hypothesis is that people who follow a faith and believe in God will be kinder and nicer to people. The rational and reasoning ones will not be so. However, the research found that children from families where faith in God is not practiced were more altruistic and kind than the ones from religious families.You can look for the study here.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible- Dalai Lama
This clarifies one important point. Children should be taught that what matters in life is being kind. For only then they will know how to love without judgments. We must teach them that every action has a consequence. I believe that without being kind, there is no love. When there is no love, then there is no God.
We must teach them that the faith can be in many ways. It can be in yourself, where one believes that you are enough to shape your own life and path. It can be on someone else or something else around/with you. Like for instance, a child can believe in his/her parents and think the father is a superhero, and mother is a Wonder Woman who will be there to guide them forever in life. It could be just a magic pencil that helps one win exams or a lucky doll that helps you every day (need to make sure it doesn’t go overboard and become a senseless superstition). It could be completely on someone up above- Gods and a battalion of fairies and angels. It could also be completely sci-fi where we can think of aliens guiding us or trying to talk to us ;).
If the person is kind, generous, and non-judgemental then they are wonderful as they are. Their faith or lack of faith doesn’t change anything. However, if one constantly judges others based on religion, caste, or belief, wealth, qualifications, even looks for that matter, a strong faith in god will not give them peace, for then there is a paucity of the kindness gene.
As long as the belief doesn’t drive one to be fanatic (which is more common with believers, or so I think) it is good to have faith. It is also important to remember we are all here like each other. We are here to love, we are here to be kind, we are here to leave our colors all so shining and bright.
Nothing will make us special than being kind and non-judgemental. So, here is to more kindness and love in this world.