Parents and Privacy

Our privacy is being invaded more and more as the days go by, your privacy is a human right and shouldn’t be violated. However the government is trying to obliterate privacy. It seems as though just because we put a post on ‘private’ or ‘only me’ on Facebook that is in fact ‘private’ unfortunately this is not the case. Everything that you write or upload online will stay online forever and most people are not even aware of this. Yet in our real lives people try to respect each other’s privacy (most of the time). For example if a pair is having a conversation and you can hear them clearly you could listen in but what is important is if you should listen in this was mentioned in the book ‘Its Complicated’ by Dana Boyd. She talks about privacy within teenagers and parents. For years and years parents have been scared that their children will be ‘talking to strangers’ online and when questioned say that they are trying to protect their child. Parents don’t seem to realise that by doing this they are overwhelming their kids even more, invading their privacy and looking at what they post is absurd and too controlling. This eventually makes them rebel against their parents and create new accounts that their parents do not know about.


More and more parents are joining Facebook to monitor their children and keep ‘up to date’ hence why most teenagers have now moved onto other social media platforms like Snapchat, Instagram and Twitter. Therefore most teenagers have two accounts usually one for family and one for friends. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the teen has ‘something to hide’ they too just want a bit of privacy. From the New York Magazine Emily Nussbaum made a quote of “They have no sense of privacy. They are show-offs, fame whores, pornographic little loons who post their diaries, their phone numbers, their stupid poetry online.” (p.55) I completely disagree with this, adults now think that teenagers do not care about their privacy and that they already post all these inappropriate photographs so why does it matter? Simply because privacy is a right and this quote is biased as she speaks about a stereotypical teenager, we are constantly shown as rebels and are represented in the a negative way in the media. Social media is the only platform where teenagers feel as though they can express their opinions and be free, but when parents and authority get involved they can’t do anything but rebel and create other accounts or encode messages that their parents may not understand, this is called social steganography. Even though they may see the message they may not be able to understand what their child actually means for example using lyrics or slang which an adult would find hard to fathom.


As a teenager who has their mother on Facebook too I can understand the frustration but I also understand how parents are just trying to protect their children and want the best for them. In the future this topic would become more interesting as parents would be up to date with the internet by then.