5 Stages of Relationship With a Narcissist
Humans need to form a relationship with fellow humans to survive, but like any other thing in this world it is not always genuine or perfect. especially if you share a relationship with a narcissist.
Here are five stages of a relationship with a narcissist. Watch out for the clues as you might be in a relationship with a narcissist.
Stage one the seduction stage.This is the stage where narcissists turn the tables around. They make great friends out of strangers then they aim to woo their chosen partner. In this stage they make everything as colorful as flowers and rainbows.
The narcissistic partner, showers the other with perfect love make them feel extra special. Ever heard of love bombing?. This is the stage where the narcissist will show you a taste of love bombing. Tricking you to believe that you both are perfect for each other.
The missing piece they are looking for is to complete them, making you feel that there is nobody else like them out there. Someone capable of providing your needs and wants it may be romance time, material luxury or anything you can ask for.
They are spoiling you with only the best things, but all these excessive displays of perfection and affection are just part of the plan. This is the narcissist’s way of luring the other person.
All of it are preparations to carry out their hidden intents smoothly. A facade of selflessness to cover for their selfish objectives. Narcissists are aware that their consistent display of perfection and affection results in dependence and once it happens the partner becomes the victim. A victim becomes the moth drawn to a flame despite its heat.
Stage 2 the domination stage. This is the stage where the magic fades. True colors of darker hues start to show narcissists begin to make their dominance felt. This is the phase where lies and abuses take place. Such lies and abuses inflict fear. Fear that compels their partners to stick to them no matter what.
Fear makes them focus on nothing else but to cater to the narcissist’s demands. To the point that even family friends and themselves are disregarded. They might even justify the narcissists and cover for them if they must.
Unfortunately the victim often brushed off such lies and abuses. This is because victim partners are blinded by the ideal love they previously showed during the intimate stage. It leads them to believe that there is still a chance for such love to be re-awakened.
They will again be treated with such sweet and flawless gestures they once experienced. Sadly it would never happen again. holding on to such little hope gradually leads to the victim’s powerlessness which in return enables the nurses to gain complete control over them.
Stage 3 the exploitation stage. After seizing complete control, narcissists now carry out their real intent. Abuse is still present but this time more severe and frequent it makes them even more fearful and powerful than they were even in the domination stage.
They leave their partners with nothing but one choice but to give in. Give in regardless of whether they like it or not. this is the stage where nurses drain. their partners dry it could be attention, power, money, sex or whatever they deem. Exploiting it over and over until nothing is left to be used. Narcissists in this stage act like rock miners who dig deeper and deeper until the crust weakens and gradually loses its foundation.
They are causing it to break down and eventually collapse. This time the victim is shown that their narcissistic partners are not as romantic or affectionate as they appear at the beginning of their relationship. They are not fair godmothers who ground the princesses wishes. but instead they are witches who stole their youth.
They only did the sweet stuff they had done to get the more precious things they wanted in the first place. with no feelings involved no strings attached just pure business.
Stage 4 the mundane stage. After getting what they wanted narcissists excitement most likely fades. They get fed up and bored, this is because they could not get anything from their partner anymore. For they have fully consumed it that their partner has nothing to give. Victim partners are now deemed useless. narcissists do not care about them anymore that even slightest attention is not shown to them.
Despite being the person they once showered with so much love and affection whom they had earlier given their everything, after all narcissists tend to lose interest if the person or situation no longer benefits them. This is the stage where they contemplate whether or not to discard their victim partners.
If the decision is not to discard the victim partner must ready oneself for more abuse. but if it is to discard then it is better for the victim for it means freedom. It would be the best escape from narcissists tight grasp, this is the phase where they formulate reasons for discarding their partner.
Reasons which are most likely inclined to the partner’s shortcomings and weaknesses. Well, narcissists view themselves as perfect individuals. they cannot be at fault. Hence the blame must not be theirs. During this stage if you are in a narcissistic relationship it is best to be discarded rather than being in for more abuse.
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Stage 5 the termination stage. This is the stage where narcissists sing ariana grande's “ thank you next” or they will be entirely terminating the relationship like a manufacturer phasing out a product that is how exactly narcissists discard their partners.
Breakups usually result in heartbreaks but this one inspires relief and freedom. It means an end for the victim partner but for the narcissistic partner it means a new beginning. This is because this breakup does not affect them.
They will quickly move on, busily spend their time on finding new targets who have their wants. Somebody who can excite them then the cycle starts again. Unfortunately for narcissists termination does not always mean they would get their hands off their previous partner forever.
here are times that they will return they come back to cause trouble and regain control. They could use the same tactics to seduce their partners again. But if it doesn't work then this time they use emotions. Narcissists are begging and crying for their partner to come back.
If you have this relationship learn your lesson and never come back. these emotions are empty and hollow. They are not out of love they are due to the desire to regain control over the previous partner. The narcissist will promise you that they have changed for the better.
The above stages occur with narcissistic partners in a romantic relationship alone. it could happen with friends, kinships, or any kind of a relationship. Narcissists could be anybody in our friends family or acquaintances. We must be equally mindful in our relationships with other people.
