Emma, For someone who is not a man, you understand men very well. Obviously you have talked to some men about their deep feelings. It’s amazing that found men who would open up to this degree. (My guess is that your open and honest approach must be totally disarming.)
You hit the nail on the head in this article. Though the effort to put down some of the harder edges of masculinity has been well-intended by society, it has had the unfortunate consequence of sending the message that normal male sexual feelings developed over our long evolutionary history are disgusting and ‘creepy’. That message strikes right to the core of many men: “if this is the way I genuinely feel and society is telling me there’s something wrong with it, then I guess there’s just something wrong and creepy about me”. I grieve for both the men affected and the women who are affected by the men who feel that way.