When wrong is right and right is wrong
The counterintuitive approach to life.
If you’re reading this, you definitely know the feeling of being wrong about something. It started off simple, like being wrong with our maths quiz in primary school. In high school, it progressed to making the wrong choices about the people who we chose to hang around with. Then, when leaving school, deciding on a career path only to find out later that it wasn’t what you wanted to be doing for the rest of your life.
We learn from an early age what it feels like to be wrong and if you’re anything like me, you hated it. Who likes being wrong? It straight up sucks. Till recently, I absolutely hated being wrong; walking down the wrong path, losing time and money, squandering opportunities that were presented to me. I thought to myself, god damn, why can’t things work out for me for once? Why can’t life be filled with more stability, and instead of ups and downs, be just up, up and away. It only took me about 24 years to realise that life is actually all about being wrong.
Primary school was like: 12 x 11 = 120? no.. um, 123? Oh.. 131. In high school I thought I was such a bad ass. No one could touch me. Look at me funny, and I’d want to bash you (something was seriously wrong with me in my teens). Next thing you know, I was the one that got bashed so badly I ended up in hospital with a neck brace, and so began the change from angry teenager to the conscious individual that I am today. University proved unenjoyable, with me failing a total of 12 units in my first year. It finally hit me after the Dean sat my ass down that if I wanted a job, I needed to actually study. So, the grades went up.
Every single step of the way, I was wrong and I hope this will be the case for the rest of my life. As humans, we’re always striving for perfection, but we will never actually reach it. Instead we’re forever chipping away at the wrongs of today, so that we can be a little less wrong tomorrow.
We often find ourselves focusing so much time and energy on trying not to be wrong that we forget to live. We all know the guy who wants to find the girl of his dreams, but doesn’t want to put himself out there, fearful of confronting the truth about his own desirability. The colleague, who wants a promotion but is too afraid to face the truth about her worth. It’s much easier to live in certainty of our beliefs, because its much less frightening than facing the possibility that we could be wrong.
Certainty inhibits growth. Nothing is for certain until it happens. Accepting the uncertainty of our future and the possibility that we could be wrong opens up the doors for growth to take place. Screw wanting to be right all the time. Instead, lets see how wrong we can be. Question our values and beliefs, doubt what the future holds, and the assumptions that you have about others. Nothing is for certain. Not until you go out there and create the truth for yourself.