It is what you say it is.
One of the best, practical ways to change how you perceive a situation is to change how you speak about it. Words have power—not only to describe, but to define.
I’m not saying you should ignore reality or excuse injustice. I’m emphasizing that you have a choice in what you focus on. Very few things have more control over your life than who you let offend you.
When you respond to someone who offends you, you are reacting. They are leading you. It is hard to be a leader when you are constantly offended.
This assumption behind all this is that God is always doing something. Our circumstances are not just random roadbumps, but providential means of His grace and goodness in our lives, even when they are difficult. Because no one has authority over my life that isn’t first under God’s authority, I don’t have to be a victim.
So, practice gratitude. Bless, don’t curse. Do all things without grumbling or complaining. It may not change everything, but it will change you.
It has taken me years to learn this. I’m not writing it down because I practice it perfectly, but in hope that it might accelerate your progress.