Wow. Thanks, Jennifer, for sharing this piece.

I don’t know what I identify as, really. I thought being agender or genderfluid fit me pretty well, but I find myself loving and hating both my masculinity and my femininity. As female-presenting, I look and feel “too masculine”, and as male-presenting I feel “too feminine”. If I stick with looking androgynous, I still have days where I feel like I’m too close to one end of the spectrum. Basically I just accept the fact that I’m going to be uncomfortable with pronouns and my appearance no matter what.

I’m lucky enough to have grown up in an open and accepting household that at least taught me about these things, but has trouble adjusting to the fact that I don’t feel comfortable with choosing a spot on the gender spectrum. I don’t want to wear a dress to prom, and that, I believe, is definitely something that bothers my family. So does my haircut.

I do know that I’m not cis (or straight, for that matter), and that the comments that cis women make in feminist discourse bother me. I’m really glad to see that articulated here, along with the same reasons why I don’t want to come out as anything. I just hope that I’ll figure myself out eventually, or that maybe it’ll become acceptable for people to just not make any decisions about who and what they are and not put a label to it. I’m just a person, and I want so badly for that to be good enough.