“Don’t try to do anything now. This just happened to you. Be sad. Cry as much as you need. Be alone when you want to be alone and visit friends when you don’t. Walk down 86th street, shop, go to your church, get out of the house, have more wine than you should, look at pictures of your family, read books but not newspapers, take a train ride to the city, plan a weekend with a friend. See a movie or a play. Sit on a beach in the fall.