Nola Darling 2x
Nov 4 · 2 min read

Marriage, aside from providing stability for children, has long been not worth the time and effort for any woman who can go out and pay bills on her own, unless she wants a partner that she has to carry-

https://medium.com/migration-issues/the-marriage-market-may-be-more-imbalanced-than-you-think-fb580717f163

Why buy the cow when the milk won’t be good tomorrow? All you will be left with is a cow who can’t provide milk who you will have to feed and shelter. Marrying today is that for most women. Especially women who do not want children, who work outside the home and who went to university. I didn’t go to college to change diapers or play with kids. I went to do stimulating work that will earn me a good salary so that I can take care of myself. Not babies and certainly not a man who can’t provide for a family who expects me to help him because no one pushed him to go out and do better during his formative years. Wages are stagnant in this country, and instead of doing better and working harder, or atleast re-examining how to approach survival, men would rather pull a woman down into a struggle they’d possibly never see if they were alone.

If you want a husband, great. I hope you find him and he’s all you want. But let’s not pretend that marriage brings value to a woman’s life. Women who are married live shorter, unhappier lives (this thing called “science” backs the research up), whereas unmarried, childless women live longer and happier lives… (https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert)

Women aren’t supposed to be selling marriage, or making it appealing. Why on earth would I sell something that’s just not in my best interest? That’s stupid.

And marriage to a dying man who has wasted 20 years of your life? Yikes. Clearly she wasn’t raised with self esteem or a father in the home. Hope his death benefits provide what he never could-

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