Why Sharing Our Stories Matter

Wendy Del Monte
Oct 4 · 3 min read

Someone once said to me that I overshare. When something is happening in my life, I share it with everyone, usually on social media, or on my blog. In fact, I started blogging way back in the early days of blogs and web presences when I found out that cancer I thought I had beaten returned. I was an exhausted, terrified Mother of 2 young children who luckily had a lot of friends who wanted to help. I needed to take a break from telling the story of what was happening over and over- each time I said it, it scared me, so I began a blog to say what was happening. I started writing One Day At A Time. It told the story of my cancer diagnoses, my treatment plan, what help I needed, and most of all, how I was feeling and coping. I started writing it as a way to be organized, and it became the thing that most helped me heal. Not only me but many other women who found my blog and were fighting similar battles. All of a sudden we became a sisterhood, and support systems.

“We don’t heal through medicine or pills. We heal through our soul. And stories help touch, inspire and motivate us to reach deep, to connect and to find a new path to health.” — Pat Wetzel- Cancer Road Trip

I continued my blog throughout my cancer journey, and I continued sharing my life online. I’m now 15 years cancer-free, but I continued writing. I blogged my way through countless life changes, big and little. My blogs changed as well. I changed to The Wait Is Over, where I wrote about home DIY and weight loss and moving and Mommying- then things got really serious. When my daughter attempted suicide after horrific bullying, I wrote about it. I shared my horror and heartbreak. It resonated with many other parents who were dealing with similar things and I began to talk more about how to help kids who are bullied. I then morphed into blogging about mental illness, and now, entering middle age. Writing and sharing my life not only helps me but helps others who can read my words and say “Me, too!”

There are quite a few people who use blogs to share their stories. Like Pat Wetzel- she also started blogging due to cancer, and like me, cancer changed her whole life. In a way to reclaim her life, she started traveling, and Cancer Road Trip was born.

Photo: Pat Wetzel- Cancer Road Trip

“After some months on the road, I realized how a new environment was healing. And It occurred to me: If I could have a CancerRoadTrip to heal, why couldn’t others? And so the idea of CancerRoadTrip was born.”

I loved reading about how Pat used traveling (and some badass flying of gliding planes) to reclaim her joy of living. I connected with her in many ways as she talks about how cancer changed her outlook on life, and how travel helped. I can’t travel right now, but I can experience it through her blog.

As a blogger, I read a lot of blogs. Mommy blogs that make me laugh, cry and yell, DIY blogs that convince me that I can do anything, cooking blogs that help feed my family, and simply lifestyle blogs that let me know that I’m not alone. That’s why I’m sharing all the fun of mid-life (I call it midlife mayhem) that I'm experiencing now. I know that I’m not the only one having hot flashes, losing my hair, and this mysterious belly bulge that popped up out of nowhere that is absolutely NOT a baby. I know that writing all this down will not only help me but maybe someone else, too. There is no shame in it, everyone goes through it. That’s why I share my story, and why I think others should share theirs, as well.