This learned behavior is from the past, which adults continue doing without seeing or knowing it. That’s why I want to tell you that it’s not your fault. — Codependents often are ashamed of their needs or behavior in a relationship. This is a significant part of the issue. Introduction These patterns will be learned if you are in unhealthy relationships for a long time. It is usually about the bond between you and your parents.

Since abuse can sneak up on a woman, beginning with subtle control or disrespect that gains intensity over time, some burning questions emerge. — Since nobody’s perfect, how do I know the difference between a bad day when he’s just being a jerk and a pattern that adds to something more serious? Almost everyone does indeed yell at one point or another in a relationship. Likewise, most male or female people call their partners…

Romantic and intimate relationships with narcissistic people are often kept in place by misassumptions and fallacies — The primary reason these relationships happen is twofold: One, you do not understand what you are dealing with; and two, you don’t trust yourself. Even when it starts turning south, instead of trusting your instincts, you are able to say, “Maybe I’m being too critical” or, “Everyone deserves a second…

I want to talk about do’s and don’ts in dealing with a narcissist and why they’re important to know about. This gives a victim more power to stop them in their tracks, and keep them at bay — It’s clear that communication with them is challenging. It’s difficult to reason with someone who won’t see past their own wants and how they can benefit from everything and everyone around them. The advantage you now have is understanding not only what to watch out for in terms of their…

Healthy narcissism is a mature, balanced love of oneself and a stable sense of self-worth and self-esteem. So the answer is: it depends. Healthy narcissism implies knowledge of one’s boundaries and a proportionate and realistic appraisal of one’s achievements and traits. Pathological narcissism is wrongly described as too much healthy narcissism (or too much self-esteem). These are two unrelated phenomena that, regrettably, came to bear the same title.

Part 2: How does perfectionism affect your life? — In the first part, I talked about perfectionism, its fundamental features, and the three different kinds of perfectionism personality traits. In this article, I want to dive deeper into how this trait can affect someone’s life and in which areas of their life. Depending on the intensity of someone’s perfectionism…

Part 1: We all have in common that perfectionism prevents you from getting the most out of life — It is the search for being perfect or being free from defects. This means that we cannot impose high demands on ourselves and sometimes on others and believing that we must achieve them without defects and never make mistakes. Anything less than perfect is unacceptable. We work very hard and…

By being cautious and alert on lots of warning flags. — The following warning flags mean that abuse could be down the road, and perhaps not far! 1. He speaks disrespectfully about his former partners. A certain amount of anger and resentment toward an ex-partner is normal, but beware of the man who is very focused on his bitterness or who tells you about it inappropriately early on in…

“What is happening inside his mind during this cycle? Why can’t he stay in the good period? What can I do to keep him there?” — I hope I can give you some insight in the repetitive traumatic cycle. — Life with an abuser can be a dizzying wave of exciting good times and painful periods of verbal, physical, or sexual assault. The longer the relationship lasts, the shorter and farther apart the positive periods tend to become.