Kelly Robert Jensen, born February 5th, 1985 to JoAnne and Robert Jensen.
Brother to Kip, Korey, Jamie and Jodie Jensen.
Loved Bob Marley, frisbee golf, fixing things, breaking things and his big red cat Charles.
Kelly forever changed my life in so many ways, but none more than on the day he died.
On Saturday, August 20th, 2016 at approximately 2:45PM PST I took the stage to deliver a message I had been organizing for 20 plus years. Every bone in my body was excited, nervous and filled with energy.
I was about to share with the world a message of worth — not just one of “believing in who you are”, but one that truly explains the why, the what and the how about worth and about self-worth. A message about how worth is being torn down, how it is affecting not just the next generation, but the ones not here yet. It is happening to us all on a programmatic level, not just a superficial level. I was about to share the why behind the chaos we are seeing in the world and also shed light onto why so many movements and efforts to correct the chaos are not working.
I was about to share how we can fix all this, and what we all have to do to make this happen — the and why it’s so important.
As I prepared to take the stage my body was filled with emotions and then I saw the big red dot. I saw the lights reflecting off the stage and I could hear the rustling of the crowd. The stagehands were fiddling with mic and making sure I was ready to go. Like a cannon ball released from an old rusty cannon, I shot onto the stage. I placed both feet in the middle of that red dot and delivered the first line of my TEDx Talk.
Seventeen minutes and fifty seconds later, I was standing in the center of the red dot that had just become a launching pad for the principles of BioWorth. As the crowd’s rustling turned to a violent standing ovation, I was overwhelmed and filled with joy. I felt the emotions of a 34-year journey were all coming into a perfect symphony of progression. Everything seemed so clear, so happy and so ‘worth it’.
I headed backstage and was greeted by hug after hug, handshake after handshake and then I saw her: my Jodie. She wrapped her arms around me and said, “I was worried about you up there and baby WOW! Just WOW!” All of us were so happy, so relieved and so ecstatic for the next part of the journey. Audience member after audience member came up to me and conversation after conversation was started. From a 17-year-old girl who didn’t feel she was enough because of pictures she saw as reality on Instagram to an 80-year-old man who talked biology with me for nearly 20 minutes (turns out he was a PhD and thought I was a Biological Researcher). In a word, it was sensational.
Then at 5:35PM, everything changed, everything changed forever.
Jodie and I received a text message from her dad that we needed to call home. You can read the full story here. In that call she learned her brother, Kelly had passed away. His time of death was between 2:15PM PST and 2:45PM PST on August 20th, 2016.
For 16 years Kelly had struggled with an internal battle of feeling like he was enough and that internal battle lead to an external battle with drugs. Kelly did not die of an overdose he died from a side effect of one of the drugs he was abusing that made him spontaneously fall asleep. On August 20th, 2016 Kelly feel asleep in his car, windows rolled up, car not on and over 90 degrees outside. Kelly feel asleep and never woke up again.
My thoughts of sharing the principles of BioWorth with the world turned from a passion to an intense and overwhelming purpose.
I love Kelly, I worked with Kelly. He was the brother I never had. We shared so many conversations about life, love and his meaning to the world. He didn’t believe he held worth being the Kelly he had become and wanted to change that. He wanted to become something, to do something and to show himself he could.
I know Kelly did not have to die. I know his parents and siblings did not have to suffer with losing their son and brother. I don’t think it, I know it. My mission on this planet, in this time and space is very simple, I will do everything in my power to ensure that another father doesn’t have to watch the casket close, another mother doesn’t have to bury her son, and another sibling doesn’t have to bare the pain of seeing their brother laying under flowers.
The message of BioWorth isn’t just a theory. It isn’t just another big idea, it is the key. It is the key to unlocking the change humanity needs to excel in every aspect of life.
When I gave this talk on the TED stage I excited for the possibilities this message could do for the world. Little did I know that this talk would forever be a reminder of Kelly’s life, his struggles, his journey, the reason for his death and now the fuel needed to carry this message to every corner of the globe.
On August 24th, the day before Kelly’s funeral I sent out an email to the others that joined me on the TEDx stage. It rings as a battle cry for me and A HUMAN PROJECT moving forward. Here is the email:
Thank you for making this one of the changing points of my life and message.
Saturday was a wild day of emotions from fear, happiness and then the deepest sadness.
While I was giving my talk, as many of you know, Jodie’s brother died of a drug-related death.
Tomorrow is the funeral.
I’ve given 100’s of “talks” and tomorrow I have to give the hardest of my life.
I don’t bring this up for pity or for you to reply with “sorry’s”…
I am telling you all this because we all have a voice, a message and a passion.
Kelly, my brother Inlaw and honestly the only brother I ever had, struggled not with drugs, but feeling he was not enough. Feeling he had no worth.
While I was stand on the red launch pad giving my talk on BioWorth Kelly was dying.
DO NOT be quiet. DO NOT stop sharing your voice and message.
Never think you’ve done all you can do… Do a little more.
We all got an opportunity to launch our messages and rockets into the world… Now go pilot the fuck out of them!!
People need your message.
Be loud, be smart and align yourself with champions not amateurs!
We all got “our chance” to be launched… Now go fuel up and fly this rocket!
My tank is full, my rocket is titanium lined and covered in tungsten.
Thank you, Mark and Kymberlee for this. I know you said you knew you wanted to create an impact on the planet but none of us knew it had the potential to be this big.
Look out world here we COME!
When you watch my TEDx Talk take the words to heart and know this is only the beginning. Only the surface level of the conversation. There is so much more to be done, to say and I plan on dedicating my life to it.
Please share this talk for the world to hear!
For those of you that like to read and not just watch the video here is the talk in written form. ( note the talk I gave and what I wrote are not identical )
Building a WORLD of Worth
I remember being 13, sitting outside my psychologist’s office and overhearing a conversation that she was having with my guardian Karen.
My guardian Karen, came into my life due to the fact that at 1 years old I was abandoned by my biological father and at 6 and a half I was abandoned by my biological mother.
My entire childhood was filled with all kinds of abuse, from emotional, physical and even sexual.
As I sat outside the office, my psychologist said:
“Everything is against Wes. From his genetics to his upbringing. He will never have a normal life. Karen, It is time to give up, he will be nothing but misery and heartache for you.”
Those words, pierced me, those words tore me up inside.
I had suffered so much abuse in my life, but nothing compared to how I felt being labeled…. being labeled worthless.
Over the years I had doctor after doctor. Each one promised me I’d feel better if I just took this pill or that pill.
But by the time I was 16 years old I had found myself in the hospital and was facing the fact that all those prescription drugs had traumatized my liver and I was facing the reality of destroying my body and even dying.
Right then I knew I had to find a way out of the darkness my life had become.
So for the next 8 years I began studying and researching all I could about the human body and mind.
I also cut out all foreign substances from my diet including medications, alcohol, supplements, sugars, caffeine… everything I felt was altering my organic state of being.
I began researching the power of water. I began cleansing my body. I found balance with exercise and nutrition.
Then I started to work on my mind and mindset. I began to realize the immense power of thought.
Through all of this I was able to find what the world calls, success.
Yet… I was still dealing with the conscious struggle to feel like I was enough. I was still constantly battling to see my worth in the world.
I had been labeled worthless and that label was still handcuffing me.
Then. On December 9th, 2005 I held my little girl, Chloe, in my arms for the first time. I looked at her perfect little face, held her innocent tiny hands in mine and everything changed.
I knew that unlike me……who was told from the moment I was born I wasn’t wanted and wasn’t enough….
….I knew this little girl was wanted and she was ENOUGH.
The only way she wouldn’t have a healthy self-worth was if I allowed myself or the culture around her to strip it away.
I knew in that moment my worth was tied to allowing my daughter to make the impact she was born to make.
With this new found clarity I went back to the research and I began looking at the impact of self-worth on the body and mind. I asked myself the question, could we as human beings change our self-worth on a deep subconscious level?
I found the answer grounded in biology.
In 2009, Ph.D,. Bruce Lipton, a world-renowned cell biologist, found that in the
end-o-the-lee-al cells change their behavior based on the environment around them. He found that our cells are controlled by energetic messages em-man-ate-ing from our positive and negative thoughts.
He proved that the universal laws of positive and negative energies apply to the creation of cells in our bodies.
His and others’ research, combined with my own, enabled me to understand that not only can we create habits that will rewire the synapses in the brain, We as human beings hold the power to completely re-engineer our own cellular DNA.
This unlocked endless possibilities in my life and I was able to completely alter my own self-worth, thus empowering me to impact the world around me.
Over the years I have been watching the world.
I’ve been watching the world become more and more unstable.
I know that human decline of self-worth and the chaos around the globe are 100% connected.
Understanding the power of self-worth is not just another “big idea” it is the key to unlocking ALL THE BIG IDEAS.
So then…how do we understand the power of self-worth?
I have identified what I refer to as, BioWorth and BioWorth exist in all of us.
BioWorth is the understanding that self-worth is created, altered and programmed into our cellular DNA just as eye color, hair color and skin pigment.
The forces that impact BioWorth are: information, creation and grounded validation.
But what happens if we disrupt the forces of information, creation, and grounded validation?
The biological chaos produces a new cellular blueprint which creates a downward spiral of generational human self-worth.
The two disruptions that will cause chaos are:
Overload and the sources of Validation.
In today’s’ world, we are seeing that every human connected to technology is experiencing an “overload”.
Our general population is experiencing such an overload that it is creating a biological nightmare for mankind.
We are being trained to be filtered and unreal and it is demanded that we pretend to be more than we are.
Youth come into this world and are immediately handed technology filled with information that requires a biological maturity of a 35-year-old. They simply do not have the foundational building blocks to handle this information overload.
We state that “it is okay, because it is all they have ever known”.
Well we have talked about the Millennial generation and said they are “comfortable” with technology…it didn’t “rot” their brains and all of this talk of tech is no different than talking about the explosion of Rock n’ Roll in the 1960’s.
Yet the Millennials are seeing the highest levels of suicide and divorce from any other generation before them.
40% of the unemployed in the United States are Millennials.
And older adults aren’t immune to the overload either. Adults 50 and over who once were able to assimilate information at a manageable rate are now seeing the effects of overload.
The overload’s disruption of information is affecting every aspect of humanity. The way we date, the way we love, the way we parent and the way we create.
It is also forming new addictions. Addictions that are pulling us away from true human connectivity.
Asking some of you to put down your phone for a moment is like asking you to cut off an arm.
We have even nicknamed these phones in the past — — “CrackBerry”.
We consciously know that this is like a drug and we know that drugs destroy the mind and body and can cause permanent damage to our cellular make up.
Yet we aren’t looking at how the drug of an “overload” can permanently alter our cellular DNA, thus programming us to have limited self-worth.
Nah…. we simply keep advancing technology nonchalantly and creating new and better and then we call them, “CrackBerry Killers”.
Our cell phones have become more important to us than the health of our cells in our bodies.
This overload is affecting all of us on a cellular level and it is just one of the two disruptions to BioWorth.
Let’s talk about validation.
Human beings for thousands of years have had an internal instinct in creating healthy self-worth.
The internal instinct is simple; we do or create, then step back see what we have done and self-validate our achievements. We have been doing this for generations.
However, many of our advancements are altering our sources of validation.
These altered sources of validation are reprogramming our cells and creating similar biological chaos we tend to see in people dealing with abandonment and neglect.
Let’s take exercise as an example.
A person with proper cellular programming, will exercise and feel fulfilled. They are able to see the exercise as self-gratifying and productive. They feel this from their own validation and do not require anyone else to provide feedback.
What we are now seeing is a shift. In the same example, of exercise, we are finding a person will exercise and then be programmatically required to post a selfie on Instagram or Facebook, to find validation and ensure the exercise was worth it.
Let’s take this a step deeper;
For years those in the Mental Health space have said “service” is a way to stimulate a healthy sense of self-worth.
However when we understand the altered source of validation we see people asking themselves:
“If I do a good deed and I don’t post it on Facebook and have people like it, is it still a good deed, have I really done anything, does it matter?”
Service was once a trusted source for rebuilding one’s self-worth and it is now becoming biologically irrelevant.
Online validation seems instant and gratifying because we can simply place one piece of content online and receive in seconds, validation and feedback.
The issue is that the validation we are receiving is grounded in inauthentic human relationships.
We now have false online relationships that create more power over us than ourselves or our “in person” connections.
These inauthentic relationships are fictional and dangerous. We give too much power to individuals that have no history of our true journey in life and thus can not validate our value.
We have created a society dependent on outside perception of self-worth and thus have a population making decisions based solely on what will achieve the highest like count on Instagram.
We are losing our intrinsic worth, the instinctual way in which humanity has for thousands of years managed BioWorth and we will not just “evolve” to accommodate. We are breaking universal laws of biology and biology will always win.
The forces of BioWorth are being disrupted on our planet and it is making things that were once unacceptable, acceptable. This is not due to one’s evil intent, this is due to the biological programming on the cellular level.
At the beginning of the Pokemon Go craze, I took to the streets to do a little research. I wanted to see how the virtual reality game was affecting the general populous.
I visited several different locations from downtown areas, skyscrapers, sporting events, airports, restaurants and so on. I took notes and observed.
At one large outdoor mall, I saw a woman, probably in her early 30’s with her toddler.
The little girl began to ask questions about an amazing little train that was circling around her.
The little girl tried everything to get her young mother’s attention.
She danced around, she pulled on her mother’s shirt, she yelled, MOMMY, MOMMY, MOMMY and then she took things to a whole new level… she started to throw a “fit”.
Without taking a moment to validate her child’s curiosity of life, the mom replied:
“Not now honey I am trying to hatch this egg.”
I wanted to slap the phone out of the mother’s hand and say,
“Are you kidding me…?????”
“Your ‘hatched’ egg is right there!”
Regrettably, I did not do that
…but I did watch as the child learned the virtual world in her mom’s hand-held more worth than the real world around her.
In 2014 the American Psychological Association found that neglect can cause more mental health problems than physical and or even sexual abuse.
Was the above example not a form of neglect?
Look I’m a parent, I understand that a small dose of this type of behavior will certainly not cause mental health issues but imagine what happens if this occurs every day. Or even every hour?
Many of us, not just children, are experiencing some form of the above story in our daily lives.
The forces against our BioWorth are even affecting the workforce.
For the first time in modern history we have a workforce that has lost the internal sense of a “job well done” and this a global issue.
This is not just affecting the workforce of the Millennials and Z generations, this is affecting nearly 69% of the active labor force.
Forbes in 2013 stated that 69% are not engaged or satisfied with their jobs and 24% said they “hate” their jobs.
Why are so many dissatisfied with what they are working for and creating?
Because on a CELLULAR level their method of receiving worth, have been altered.
They are simply behaving based on cellular programming and are looking for the same instant gratification a post online receives.
This is not what businesses across the globe are equipped to handle.
This is creating extreme turn-over in all ages of the labor force, internal sabotage and an all-time low in company loyalty.
Companies that want to win have to recognize the altering cellular makeup of their labor force and begin to change the forces that impact BioWorth inside their companies.
As a world, we must pay attention to the “overload” and become fully conscious of the altered sources of validation.
We all have a role to play in correcting this.
We must start with ourselves, spread this to our families and then to our communities.
I have been working with thousands of youth, adults and companies over the past 11 years and I have personally seen the power in managing the forces that govern our BioWorth.
We can all do simple things today to initiate this change for tomorrow.
Stop using filters on your photos, stop pretending to be what you aren’t with your social media accounts.
Embrace vulnerability with yourself, your family and your community.
Put down the phone when you are in front of another human being.
Turn off the phone when you have promised your attention to loved ones and friends.
Slow your life down and realize your impact on this planet starts with managing the forces that are governing your BioWorth.
Be patient in pursuing achievements.
Show love to those around you.
Realize that all the noise in the world around us is the battle cry of humanity trying to understand their worth.
Again the principle of BioWorth is not just another “big idea”, it is the IDEA that will literally unlock all THE BIG IDEAS.
It is up to us to take personal ownership of our own BioWorth and then become more conscious of how we can build others around us.
My son, Peyton, is 7 years old and he is by far the most fearless human I have ever met.
The other day he was doing a stunt on our workout ropes.
He, of course, asked me to record him so he could show his sister just how awesome he was.
I pulled out my phone and he said,
“Dad lets put this on Facebook so I can go viral.”
When he got done with his stunt, and he nailed it I might add, he asked,
“Dad, did you post it?”
“No buddy, but we’ll show your mom and sister and they will love it!”
his reply was surreal,
“…but dad if you don’t post it, no one will see it and won’t matter that I did it!”
then I replied,
“NO son it does matter!”
That was one moment of managing the forces governing BioWorth,
Now it’s your turn.