Adoptive Parenting Tomorrow’s Peacemakers
With reference to my other post whose title included “Or Rogues,” this is for adoptive parents! Your so-called label must certainly read “wanted”! Congratulations!
Several years ago, a Readers Digest article told of an adoption from a European orphanage by an American man and his wife. The boy they adopted had apparently spent several years in the orphanage. Conditions there were deplorable. All seemed to go well in his new home. Therefore, the mother was suddenly shocked years later when her adopted son came into the kitchen in a rage and grabbed a butcher knife. It was all she could do to subdue him.
Mental health professionals became involved over time. Yet, their son became valedictorian in his high school graduating class. Before his speech, his took a few moments to thank his parents and express his love for both of them — the first time they ever had heard him say, “I love you!”
Every child’s infancy is dominated by his or her right hemisphere, which regulates emotions. Natural instinct creates an offspring’s expectations for nurturing. Only around three years or later does the left hemisphere bring “waking” consciousness and its memories.
Right hemisphere (i.e., “the unconscious”) memories often are called “hidden” for emotionally positive or traumatic experiences retained from very early childhood. Such memories can unconsciously influence an individual’s thoughts, decisions, and behavior throughout his or her life. Parenting that involves a man and a woman offer both male and female role modeling for the child.