Willpower Doesn’t Work. Here’s How to Actually Change Your Life.
Benjamin P. Hardy
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I was about to comment when I read Kristin Gracie’s response: “You can still be committed to being alcohol-free and interact within an environment where alcohol exists and around people who drink it. It requires a deeper level of connection to your desire and mindfulness where you become so committed to it that your environment becomes neutralized in its effect.” My story validates her specific example. I wanted to stop drinking, but was unsuccessful until I had a drunken accident. I passed out driving and demolished my SUV on a redwood tree. I apparently slid under the dashboard into a “cage” that protected me and avoided being impaled on the steering wheel — a rare case of being saved by not wearing a seat belt. I woke up in the hospital still drunk, with bruised ribs, and went home that night. I vowed abstinence at that moment, and as I was in the ad business, continued to associate with my boozing associates and clients, but without the slightest desire to imbibe. That was 30 years ago, and unlike the sober cops on Law & Order I have had absolutely no urges to fall off the wagon. I had a similar experience quitting smoking after a heart attack — that one was only 8 years ago, but I don’t anticipate a relapse there either. My point being that I believe the real proof that you are committed to a goal is when you don’t need any of these support mechanisms.

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