Jinn, I read this yesterday but came back to it again because it was such a great piece. I relate to it so much but in an opposite sense… I grew up with my Peruvian (and brown) mom but never had a strong relationship with my American, mostly-absent-in-my-young-days father. I look “totally white” so I worked really hard growing up to show / prove to others that I was Latina. Point is, as I grew older, I stopped caring so much about what others thought I was or wasn’t and started being myself a little more — not having to prove to anyone that I spoke Spanish or had these Peruvian roots. Slightly a different evolution but the same at heart :) Thanks for your wonderful writing!