Things I think I forgot, but I forget
I like your 2o things to tell your 2o year old self. Wait. Was it 2o? I forget. This brings to mind the don’t worry monolog. Does this correct spelling? It should. But, eh, don’t worry ‘bout it.
What I’d tell my younger self? Not much — Live like you mean it. Lose the armor. You’re most yourself when you’re vulnerable. This is not to say that you’re not strong, you are,what it means is this — it’s okay to let your guard down. If someone puts you down for whatever, your gender, your body type, how you dress or speak, it’s about them and their insecurity. Be yourself anyway.
Pay no attention to decorum and the only rule worth following is do unto others as you would have them do unto you. What people really remember is how you made them feel, so go ahead and feel good. When you feel good, others will notice and feel good too. That’s how you show ‘em that you’re strong, kid.
That’s your strength — feeling good, so remember to strengthen that feeling. That’s radical. You go ahead and sing out loud, laugh out loud, yell when you see injustice. Don’t let shame prevent you from doing what you want, but remember to take responsibility for whatever it is that you do. As the annals of Spiderman say: With great power comes great responsibility.
When you’re unsure there are more possibilities. Allow things to come in their own time and pace. Go with what feels right. Neither do you need to run away from confrontation or run head long into the fray. Sit with adversity, a solution will emerge. You don’t need to apologize for being. You have the right and the power of self determination and free will. Use them wisely.