How do I get the life of my dreams? How do I create happiness? How to I live a life that I actually enjoy and feel good about?

These are the questions that I get all the time. So let’s think about it. All of our happiness is rooted in our minds, in our perspective. So how do I get the life of my dreams? Change your perspective. How do I create happiness? Change your perspective. How do I live a life that I actually enjoy and feel good about? Change. Your. Perspective!

Think about it! Literally is the answer! When we are trying to change our life or our life’s path, we have to first change our minds. How do you expect to have this completely different and all out wonderful life if you are stuck in the same mindset that got you the life you aren’t so excited about?

Step 1 —

How do we we change our minds? That is more the question to be asking. See the first step to any change is to understand and fully accept that it begins in our minds. We have to create a new way of thinking in order to create a new way of being. This is actually the hardest part of the process. Because, we have spent so much time in our current way of thinking that it’s super hard to change all of that now. So how do we do it?

First, figure out what that life that you are craving and desiring actually looks like. Write it down! Get crazy detailed! I mean everything, from the time you open your eyes in the morning until you lay back down at night? What does it look like? What does it smell like? What does it feel like? What do you feel like? What do you do that day? Who is there with you? When you read this back to yourself it should read like a book. One of those crazy good books that when you read it you can see it in you mind!

Second, write down on another sheet of paper what your day is like right now. Just as crazy detailed as they day you would like to live. Now you can see ALL of the differences. Find the smallest one. Find the smallest, easiest to change difference and change it now! Right now! Today!

Then go to the next smallest difference and change it. Keep going until you are actually living your perfect day! Doing it in this way makes it seem possible to you. The smallest difference is easy! They next one is easy! Then, by the time they start getting harder you have already accomplished so much and your momentum is heading in the direction of your perfect day that it doesn’t seem near as daunting as it once did.

Before you realize it you wake up one day and you’re there or damned close! I know this because I have practiced this all of my life. I know this because no matter how much I have changed or my plans have changed every time I sit down and make the changes in this way, I wake up and it’s all there! Try it! Step one to changing your mind and perspective is trying…

-Whitney Bartscher

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