
What a Horrible Date Taught Me
I went on this date a few months ago but wanted to write about it now because it’s just too horrible not to share. I smile as I even write it. I met “Jake” we’ll call him for sake of embarrassment should he ever find this, off Tinder. He’s in the army and lives in Ft. Lenordwood. A lot of those army dudes come down here to meet women. Apparently there’s not much going on in that area. I face-timed him before agreeing to meet him. You can actually get a pretty good idea of chemistry or lack thereof from Face-timing. Expression and voice tone are attraction triggers. So check. He had that down and we had a decent fun and flirty conversation. Oh boy was I ever wrong about Jake.
We went to Nakatos for dinner. I don’t know what it is about that place but I ALWAYS have the worst dates there. It’s a hibachi steakhouse for those of you who don’t know. He was very very judgey the entire time. He even asked me how many guys I had slept with! Unreal! Such a tacky question to ask on a first date. Seriously. Especially with a bunch of strangers around us within earshot. I didn’t answer. It’s not many, but geeze dude. Rude. Things were awkward after that. He continued grilling me about my life. “Why are you single?” “Are you crazy or something?” He didn’t ask it in a fun joking way. He kept checking his phone, then tried to hold my hand under the table. I guess he thought he could attract me somehow without even trying. Eg0-maniac. I’m thinking wow, have you ever been on a date in your life?
I’m getting more and more turned off by the minute and just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, it did. The bill came. He said OUTLOUD, “Holy shit!” I am mortified at this point because everyone heard him say it. He then proceeded to take a picture of the receipt and send it to his friend. No joke! That blew my mind. Do girls actually go for guys like this? There is no way in hell I’d ever go out with this guy again.
I am very turned off by rude behavior. I’m old school. I keep my eyes out for the gentlemen in life. They seem to hide and are a dying species. But still I hope. I need to think of some great pre-date screening questions that would reveal if it was worth the trouble or not. One can’t very well ask Hey, will you complain about our bill when it comes?
And if I asked if he had manners, then he knows to act in a way that shows as much. It could all be fake. I think it takes about two weeks before a person isn’t able to hide their true colors anymore.
I thanked him for dinner and we walked outside to our cars. He wanted to continue the date and get a drink somewhere. This is where I messed up. You see I felt bad that he drove like 2 hours to see me. I’m a nice girl. Too nice sometimes. I should have just sent him on his way. Anyways, I mustered up the will to have ONE drink with him. It was fine. Whatever. We just went across the road to Big Whiskeys. My picking a place close to Nakatos was no haphazard choice. I wanted a swift exit afterwards. I can’t even remember what he said over drinks. I just remember it being boring. I thanked him and left. He continued to text after. I replied with short non-flirty responses. Then faded out slowly. He snap-chatted me and I didn’t respond. And that was the end of it.
Moral of the story. I’m not prolonging a date anymore if I’m not feeling it. Why should I? Afteall, he was super rude at dinner. I have got to stop thinking I owe guys things. Just because you bought me dinner doesn’t entitle you to anything. A man takes a risk and an investment when he goes on a date. I realize and appreciate that money is spent, but if you’re expecting sex just because you bought a girl dinner, how is that any different from prostitution? It’s an unspoken transaction.
No more Nakatos dates for me! After three bad ones, I am honestly scared to go there again!
So ladies, in conclusion, should a gent ask you out to dinner, don’t feel like you owe him your body. To be honest, you don’t even owe him a kiss! It’s crazy how our society has changed so much over the last few decades. Back in the fifties, a man would split a milkshake with you and would be lucky to even hold you hand at the end of the night! Men used to court women. I want a time machine.
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