tRNA
tRNA
Aug 24, 2017 · 2 min read

Trial & Error

I’ve always struggled to genuinely click with my past significant others, probably because I’ve always dated guys who pursued me solely on my looks. When taken solely at face value, I’m stereotyped and misunderstood, thus leading to the lack of connection.

So, after some trial and error (several failed relationships), I’ve come to prefer befriending someone first, simply because I realized I am a sapiosexual. I can’t be in a relationship for the sake of it. I don’t want to waste my time being in another bad relationship. I’d prefer to live the care-free single life. If I commit myself to someone, I need to be appreciated for my mind, and not my looks, which only deteriorates as I grow older. I want the opportunity to feel you out and love you for your personality. I want to fall in love with your imperfections, not cope with them. I need to get to know you intellectually and emotionally before I get to know you physically. I found these quotes that define my dating style:

“I am attracted to people who are intellectually stimulating, someone that I can have a heated debate with who has a logical thought process that I can follow. There is nothing sexier than sitting on a stoop at 4 A.M. with someone who has made such a compelling argument that I am questioning my own logic, or realizing a bias I never knew I had.”

“Being sapiosexual means (to me) that it’s really hard for me to have one night stands because generally speaking, I’m not really sexually interested in someone until I’ve seen that ‘spark’ in their personality, regardless of their level of physical beauty.”

“That I find a person’s intelligence, wit, grasp on academia, and worldly perspectives far more attractive than their looks.”

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An uncreative free-spirit. A fan of all things science, tech and bohemian. A lover of all things found in mother nature. A fellow yogi.