Day 1: Fear of Conflict

I woke up today at 7:30 AM and basically remembered a glimpse from my dream about fear of conflict.

Not fear of pain, death, uneasiness, but fear of conflict.

I wonder, why do humans fear it?

Let’s dig in!

When it comes to fear, often they are irrational and not justified. They’re just there, because we are wired this way, but knowing this we can change our natural disposition by first changing our behavior.

When I think of conflict all kinds of associations come into my head: difficulty, pain, trouble, weakness and so on, but is it true?

Conflict just like any other thing is part of life. I think what we ought to do is to understand it and dig deeper. Conflict doesn’t solve a thing, but running away from it doesn’t too.

What could be done here? embracing conflict? Facing and understanding it?

Let’s look from another point of view. How do successful people deal with it?


  • Look at it as an opportunity for growth.
  • They face it and eat it for dinner.
  • They grow by dealing with it.
  • They either overcome or learn from it.

None of these things say, that they run from it, so what’s the wisest course of action and knowledge that should be kept in head?

There’s no yin or yang. There’s always both of them. In yin you can find yang and in yang you can find yin.

Understanding conflict could bring the bright side of it and show different colors. It’s not logical to run away from conflict.

Bruce Lee have said “ do not pray for an easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one. “

Face conflict, not stir up one yourself. You might find something about yourself and the situation, which will give valuable lessons and insight.

In the end, we’re all going to die, so why not squeeze every experience of life? You don’t want to look back amd regret something that you did not.

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