I think there is a dramatic difference between someone who is joking around and someone who has a serious flaw in their mental faculties.
To say that comprehending this difference exists is “outside the realm of understanding” of decent men is a bit harsh, but I get what you’re saying.
Men are stupid, generally speaking, when it comes to emotional intelligence. We thrive on feedback, not subtleties. Women tend to thrive on subtlety and therein lies the problem. If you’re talking to men who genuinely think it is okay to talk to women like that, one should probably ask why they think it is okay. Has it worked for them in the past? I hope to God (and I’m an atheist) that there aren’t women out there that accept this kind of behavior in a positive way. But it does offer an explanation of why these guido douchebags think it is okay to talk to women like that. If so, shouldn’t there be a second piece to women who are accepting of this kind of behavior?