I think the quote you chose is the worst and most simplified part of the article you linked to (thanks for sharing!). The differences in how our brains work are very interesting indeed, and probably play a significant part in our sexuality. But there again rises the question of nature versus nurture.

Are men really hard-wired for achievements, rather than family? Where’s the evidence for that? If (some) men keep a tally of their “sexual conquests”, can that really be explained exclusively by nature, rather than by what they are taught in adolescence? Growing up, boys often have to suppress or hide their feelings and show their worth by fighting with each other. Not because they want to, but because they are expected to. You might make a case that this behavior can also be seen in other animals like wolves, and I grant that a propensity for it all in men seems probable. But unlike other animals, we have other means of primary communication. And both boys and girls tend to behave very differently when either their mother or father was a more prominent parent. Boys with stronger ties to their mothers are often far less “macho”, and instead more sensitive. So while there might be a biological propensity one way or the other, I don’t think there’s strong scientific evidence suggesting this is the way it has to be. The article specifically states that it merely describes current sexuality, and refers to therapists and psychologists among others; rather than exclusively referring to neuroscientists.

There is no doubt that for men, sex is more visual. Naked body parts are awesome! But the statement, “Men want sex, and women want relationships. Men want flesh and women want love,” is disgustingly stereotypical. Sure, just the mere prospect of sex sounds pretty good for most men. But in the end, everyone wants love. If there is any hard-wiring in our brains, then I do believe it is for relationships, in both genders. This does also make sense biologically, since a family is a good way to ensure the survival of one’s genes. And don’t forget, there are women who look for one-night-stands, too; and from modern articles it appears like women’s sex drive isn’t nearly as conservative as many men think. But I don’t believe for a second that women like to be objectified for any other reason than nurture (read: because they were taught that they had to like it). I would assume that they like being adored (who wouldn’t!); but objectification is a kind of degradation. It’s saying: “I like the way you look, I don’t care for the way you are”.

Of course it’s important to acknowledge biological and neural differences (if only to ease marital arguments about web browser histories). But I think it would be hugely detrimental to our culture, superficial and ultimately intellectually dishonest, to ascribe stereotypical sexual behaviors like “locker room talk” to “the wiring of the genders”. Culture plays a huge role in this, and I don’t want to live in a culture where we men are expected to behave like sociopathic pigs who grab women “by the pussy” whenever we feel like it.