Unfortunately some parents don’t seem to get parent lessons and they grow up in hard times where they find it’s hard to get a nice life so when there seems to be an opportunity to be a little more fortunate they find it very hard to take. My mother was like that when I had more than two Christmas presents she suggested that I give those extras away I didn’t really mind I could choose the gift that I wanted and I could give the rest away . She couldn’t accept generously . Good luck to you I’m glad that people have found you and have put the good in your life , you have earned it on how you treat others. .