I think it’s fine that you love yourself, and I agree that we hopefully gain wisdom as we age. That comes from both sides of the gender divide/spectrum.
But what you’re manifesting is called metabolic syndrome, and it will kill you if you don’t take steps to stop it. Your fat is producing estrogen, which is the thing probably driving ‘dad bod’ or something like it. Obesity is the next step, and a sign of metabolic dysregulation — not a failure to control your desire to eat donuts.
I’ve written quite a bit about this. One of my latest pieces is here: https://empathy.guru/2017/10/09/weight-loss-by-the-v-memes-iv-or-channeling-your-inner-australopithecine/
Good luck on your journey. It’s one lots of us share.