Karen, thank you so much for the thoughtful words and the genuine support. I completely resonate and have given much thought to many of the things you have said here. It’s hard being a feminist and defending yourself as a man-lover, not a hater, in the face of everyday debasement.
I’ve been in conversation with men and when they hear the word ‘feminist’ they literally quiver and shrink into themselves. Or they become ultra defensive and attack me as an irrational, emotion-driven man-hater. What’s worse is when other women criticize you for being a feminist. It hurts that they don’t understand the meaning of the word and the ideologies driving its mission.
I too want to include, and believe we need to include men in this process of cultural change. It’s just a matter of figuring out the how.
I too told my story not because it is unique to me, but because I believe, and I know it is the story of thousands of other women throughout this country. Feeling fortunate enough to be able to function despite the everyday fears and anxieties, I can provide voice to those unable to overcome the debasement.
We need to support each other and lift each other up. Thank you.