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As someone not in the dating market, I am bemused by stories about dating nowadays, especially trends of portraying some gender-neutral practices as otherwise. One such trend is to judge people, especially men, as suitable dates or not by whether they own a bed frame. Men who do not own a bed, who “sleep on the floor”, are “deal breakers”. They are said to be “childish” people who are not dating material, who have no “self respect”, who need to move out of their parents’ houses and grow up, etc. “Just get a bed frame,” they are told.

That is…


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On a beautiful morning, I got a text from a friend. “Don’t piss me off. I am so stressed already!” Did he get into a fight? Was he laid off from work? Did he find out he had cancer? No. He was getting married in two days.

He is starting a new life with the love of his life. He should be happy, but he seemed not, just overwhelmed. Why? Wedding, that’s why. If you might get married someday, skip the wedding. Let me give you three reasons.

Expensive

Sure, it is possible to have an inexpensive wedding. Many, if not…


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Around this time last year, I started an experiment to “write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Yesterday, I finished the experiment by publishing the 365th (and the last) article in the collection, with each article answering one of the prompts. Here are a few lessons that I have learned.

Planning Pays Off

Before the year of 365 Days of Writing Prompts, I did two rounds of 100 Days of Code. As the name suggests, I was to code every day (at least an hour per day outside work) for 100 consecutive days. On many…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “Think of your blog as a mirror: what does it reveal? Consider your blog name, theme choice, design, bio, posts… what does every element tell you about yourself?

Blog name: There is none. On Medium, I do not need a blog name and I cannot set one. Good, since I am indecisive and have not come up with a blog name anyway.

Theme choice and design: There is no theme choice. Medium’s design is alright. It…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “Can anything be funny, or are some things off limits?”

Anyone can consider anything can be funny, but that does not make it okay for them to say whatever they want, wherever they want, however they want, and to whoever they want.

I have seen it so many times. Someone says something, whatever their intention is. Then they resort to one of the tired excuses.

“I am just joking!”

“You are not getting the joke.”

“Lighten…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “You’re on a long flight, and a palm reader sitting next to you insists she reads your palm. You hesitate, but agree. What does she tell you?”

What does she tell me? I don’t remember a thing. I am probably too polite to not interrupt, but I am not interested in what she says at all.

I was raised to not believe in superstitions, or so they say. It has not changed, except that I have…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “Is political correctness a useful concept, or does it stifle honest discussion?”

How else am I supposed to answer this question? After all, the phrase “political correctness” is overwhelmingly used by those who consider it undesirable. But I will give it a try.

The other day, I was called a “Chinaman”.

Actually, I did not mind. Sure, I also objected to being associated with China, but I was willing to let that slide too. The person…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “Describe the last time you were moved to tears by something beautiful.”

I do not think I have ever been moved to tears. I doubt I ever will. Instead, one recent time I saw something beautiful? Apollo 11: First Steps Edition.

It is a documentary that was released earlier this year and focuses on the Apollo 11 mission, which happened exactly 50 years ago. It consists of only archival footage and is supposed to feature some…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “Humans have very strong scent memory. Tell us about a smell that transports you.”

What can I say? This must be the 5th time or so I see I prompt being reused. I have written about the dim sum dishes that I often had as a child. I would like to add, though, that although the dishes were delicious, the dining experiences themselves were pretty boring.

I did not really like “yum cha” (literally means “drink…


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This is part of my experiment to write regularly and publish every day with the help of 365 Days of Writing Prompts. Today’s prompt: “What bores you?”

What bores me? There can be a lot of answers. I am just going to pick one kind: Conversations that actually aren’t.

“Talk to your parents.” People often tell me.

“You mean listening to them while they talk non-stop about 100 things that I have not done or I am not good at? Because that is about the only type of ‘conversation’ that they have allowed.” I tell myself.

Here is the definition…

Kai Chan

Changing the world that talks too much, one piece of writing at a time. Leading the leaders, when they can lead and when they cannot.

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