How To Survive Turning 18 With No Family Support

If you’re anything like me, you might’ve graduated with little to no plan and no family. Yet, everyone around you has their family’s support.

When there is nobody to tell you what the best bank account to get is, how to get a job, or how to save money, there will always be an article online about it.

So, How Do I Find A Job?

Finding your first job (if you didn’t work through high school, or maybe you just want a new one) can be difficult, and maybe a little scary.

Build a resume! You can easily find templates online. You can even find websites that make it for you! Whatever job you’re searching for, make sure your resume is relevant. Put your accomplishments, skills, and what you excelled at in school. Only list your GPA if it is above a 4.0

Now, finding the right job. In my opinion, the best way to find a job is to look on google maps. I know, sounds strange, hear me out. Pull up your house, and look around it. All the places you’re looking at are very close, awesome! Just click the place you’d like to work at, press the website, find the career button, and apply!

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Interview time! Dress for the job you want. Don’t wear a suit for an application at Mcdonald’s, and don’t wear jeans and a sweater for a job at a Bank. For women, a dress will almost always be perfect. A nice, midthigh, modest dress is perfect. No super high heels though! Be kind, and respectful. Remember, you can ask questions too.

How Do I Open A Bank Account?

Honestly, it is much easier than you’d imagine. For your first account, BOFA would be the best choice. The free 360 option is amazing for a first account.

Go to the website, answer some basic questions, and before you know it you’ll have your account! If you have paper checks, you can use the mobile app to take pictures of the check and have the money go straight into your account.

How Do I Save My Money?

So now you have money to spend and it is tempting to spend it all on silly things.

Put some money aside. It doesn’t have to be a lot, between 10 and 20 percent of each check is perfect. This way, if you have an emergency you have extra money to lean on.

Tempted to spend a lot? Do it healthily. Of course, it’s okay to splurge and get things you want sometimes, but not every day! Did you spend too much but still want to spend even more? Get things for your future. Things for your future house/apartment, or college.

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How Do I Heal My Heart And Soul?

Growing up and doing this without parents can be painful. The easiest way to heal is to find a hobby.

Read, write, sew, crochet, or hang out with friends. Whatever you like to do, do a lot of it. Have something you enjoy doing to help get your mind off of things when it’s bothering you too much.

Keep a healthy balance. Getting your mind off of it can be good, but you also need to give yourself time to process your feelings. Listen to the sad songs, and cry in your bed at night. It is good and healthy to give yourself time to be sad.

Find an alternative family. This can be anybody, your coworkers, friends, your friend’s parents, or your siblings. Whoever makes you feel comfortable and helps you heal is your new family now.

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It is hard becoming an adult all alone, but I made it and so will you. Don’t just survive, thrive.



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