The Difference Between Love, Lust, and Attachment

People throw the word “love” around like confetti. They use the term to mean a myriad of different things. The solution is to define your terms, specifically the difference between love, lust, and attachment.

For most of my life, love was a deeply confusing topic. My home life was troubled and fractured; there was constant contempt, rage, and secrecy.

So from a young age, I learned that love was pain. Love meant hiding who you were, and love meant getting hurt and hurting.

In my early twenties, I played the ukelele, and the first song I learned was “You Only…


How to Make an Informed Decision About Who to Sleep With

TV and film show sex as a fun toy with no consequences. Fire and brimstone Southern Baptists say it’s a sin. But what is the truth? The church will tell you to wait, but what does science say on the topic?

If you want to make an informed decision about who to sleep with, who to marry, and how to live your life, a good place to start is research.

Studies show that the more sexual partners you have the more likely you are to:

  • Get divorced later in life
  • Have an abortion
  • Get pregnant out of wedlock
  • Contract an…

FOMO, or the Fear of Missing Out, is the insecurity you may feel when scrolling through photos on social media. This sinking feeling of inadequacy is a form of shame, and it can be detrimental to your relationships and your happiness.

Turn Off Social Media

First thing, turn your phone off. FOMO is born of the plethora of photos being shared on Instagram and Facebook. When you start to feel that FOMO itch, get off your phone immediately. This is especially important during any holiday.

You only have so much time, energy, and money. You can’t do everything, nor should you. …


Tips to Help you Receive Graciously

Why is it so hard to accept a compliment? I used to be terrible at taking a compliment. I never knew how to respond and would deflect, feel uncomfortable, and guilty. It can be difficult because of insecurities, but it can also just be a habit.

Graciousness is the cure and at its heart is gratitude. We all know gratitude is a good thing; in fact, studies now show a daily gratitude practice can cure depression. But gratitude is a two-way street through expressing and receiving. …


Taking a break from technology can be wonderful for your mental health and relationships, but in this day and age, it can be difficult to achieve. We all use screens for work, to stay in contact with our friends, and even just to get a recipe for dinner. We are so plugged in all the time; is a screen-free day even possible? Absolutely.

Envision What You Want

Ideally, we could find a day where we wouldn’t have to work or be in contact with anyone who isn’t immediately around us, but that may not feasible in this season of your life. …


6 Tips for Homemaking Motivation

Being a homemaker comes with a lot of joy and job satisfaction, but it’s still a job, and cooking used to be one of my biggest hassles. I found the whole process of meal planning, grocery shopping, and preparing meals to be stressful and overwhelming.

This was a pretty big problem for me because my calling in life was to be a stay-at-home wife and mother. I loved other parts of homemaking like cleaning, organizing, and taking care of our baby, but cooking was more of a chore for me than vacuuming and laundry.

Maybe it was because I grew…


Pregnancy is beautiful, but it is also difficult. There are so many pains and discomforts. My first trimester, I threw up constantly. The nausea and fatigue were debilitating.

But just when I thought my body was going to give out, there was the glorious second trimester. I was full of energy and felt like a better version of myself. Our bodies are pushed to their limits, but never more than what we can handle.

Now, I’m 30 weeks along in my pregnancy, and I am so grateful for this special time in my life. …


Name Calling and Assault Are the Same Thing?

I don’t have a problem with rape victims speaking out against their offenders. Rape is a horrible crime, one that was punishable by death in the US until the 1970s. I do, however, have a problem with the #MeToo campaign, and it’s not about the grammatical error they make. (It really should read: “Me, too.”)


How to Stop Wasting Your Life

Staying focused, clear-headed, and productive during the day can be so stifled by the haze of social media. My self-awareness goes out the window when Facebook newsfeed gets involved. I actually lose consciousness of my body and the time. After what intended to be a quick jaunt to check my notifications, I’ll be slumped over barely able to pull myself away.

As a homemaker and a writer, I set my own schedule. After focused cleaning for an hour, I often take a break on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, just to “relax” for a few minutes before the next task.

One…


Back to Basics

What do you love about men?

There are millions of sources out there on how a woman can get a man. Tips on how to style your hair, how to flirt, and proper etiquette on a date. Most of these sources, however, fail to ask some pretty basic questions:

Why do you want a man?

What do you admire about men?

What do men and women bring to the world, respectively?

If one’s goal is to marry a man and live happily ever after, answering these questions is vitally important. …

Kathryn Beal

Wife. Homemaker. Stay-at-home mama. Author of How to Find a Great Therapist (Available on Amazon). kathrynbeal.net Bitcoin ❤ 1qZuHCwwYNzbwHUBNnoDxWKE6NJRuu1Pq

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