What Happens When the Job You Want Isn’t the One You Have?

Damn, do I still work here?

When the job you want isn’t the one you have, what are you going to do about it? You will likely continue to show up as long as they are not hassling you too much and the paycheck keeps being direct deposited into your checking account.

This is nothing new, pretty much what everyone would and probably is doing the same thing. You show up Monday morning, counseling yourself from the parking lot to your desk. Walk into the building, daring a MF to say good morning, as you rolling your eyes and sucking your teeth, all while stumbling toward the break room for some much-needed coffee.

The impending misery provokes the same thoughts again and again. Your mind is crowded. Your cubicle walls begin to shrink and syphon your creativity / energy. A padded wall of solitude separates you from your destiny.

If you have ever felt the overwhelming desire to run screaming from the building, please know that you are not alone.

There is a solution. Let’s start by considering a couple of things about your situation. Breaking down issues into manageable components makes issues easier to dissect and solve. Believe me when i tell you that I am right there with you! I am now the captain of #teamoverit.

Can I please stop being miserable at my current job?

Consider the answers to the two following questions:

  1. What’s the problem?

2. Who’s the problem.

Most likely, there are more than two questions that need answers. For now, let’s make sure that these starter questions have answers, they will be the key to your freedom path.

Lets start with the easier of the questions. Who’s the problem? REAL TALK, you are. Sorry, not sorry. You are going to have to bite the bullet on this one just like I did. The answer to that question came pretty easy, but it is wayyyy more difficult to solve.

It is much easier to blame someone else than it is to own your foolery. Thoughts like, “they don’t give me a chance”, “this department is so political”, they have favorites”. There is not one job on earth where none of these problems exist. It’s likely that you didn’t know what you were getting when you took your current job. Beyond the salary, you only knew the job was offered and you accepted.

So now what?

Did you take the job for a good reason? Hell yeah you did! It’s called survival. You wanted to take care of yourself or your family, and you still do! Remember that and make the best of it. I have swallowed the same bitter pill everyday for the last two years, but there is hope.

  1. Plan your escape: (Click the link for more info) Make a list of the things that you enjoy and are good at.
  2. Decide which of those things can make you money: Success starts with a plan.
  3. Do things that bring you closer to your dream even if they seem dumb: I started this website in a climate where blogs are a dime a dozen and everyone has a damn opinion. This site gives me hope that one day when it’s my turn, I will have put in the work required to walk confidently to my next chapter.
  4. If your dream means that you are going to have to take a pay cut, make sure that you get the foundation laid before you leave your full-time gig: Let’s face it, everyone has a dream. No one, including your support system is going to applaud you for walking off your job into poverty. Be smart!
  5. Figure out the best transition from what you do now to what you want to do and make a timeline for completion: (Click the link for more info) This last item is the roughest. When you are trying to accomplish something new, it is not always easy to say… “its going to take “x” amount of months for this to be up and running”. When your dream can pay the bills, or you have enough to sustain yourself without your current paycheck, you have earned the right to exit.

What’s the problem?

Is the problem the role that you have at your current company? Can your slump be fixed by simply moving to another department? Do you lack the training or credentials that you need to transition into your new dream?

I have been in this situation before. So far in my life I have accumulated a couple of careers. Each time I transitioned from one career to the next, I had to earn new credentials. I have been a hairstylist, a customer service rep, an operations manager, a financial analyst, and a college professor to name a few. Yes , none of this shit goes together, and yes my résumé is bipolar. Hey! you don’t know my life. ;-)

Driver!, let me off at the next stop.

The time is now! Get off the comfort train, dust off all those “misty water-colored” memories, and turn them into now.

  1. Stop pretending you have it all figured out and actually figure it out: Ask someone that’s already working in your field of interest, how they got started and what kind of skills does that job need. Your connection may be the right connection to help you take that next step.
  2. One foot in front of the other: We often feel like we are spinning our wheels. Trying to break into another industry is tough, believe me I know, but celebrate the small victories as they come.
  3. Learn from your setbacks: Self-explanatory
  4. Be willing to accept that your plan will change: It’s great to have a plan, and you need it. Just remember, don’t be so married to your plans that you can’t adjust and course correct as necessary.
  5. Tell all nay-sayers to fuck off: When you see these people coming your way, spewing their negativity and trying to discourage you, run the other way. If they follow you, be totally willing to put spray them in the face with a water pistol. :-) #stillchildish

Never stop believing that you deserve your dreams!

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