To be clear though, having a casual foursome would not be considered polyamory by most people who consider themselves polyamorous. It is ethical nonmonogamy, yes. But polyamory, in my understanding and use of the word, is the practice of having multiple intimate, love-based connections that are not centered around sex alone.

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Stella J. McKenna
Feb 24, 2017 · 1 min read

Oh, you’re definitely correct. Thanks for pointing this out. I didn’t mean to conflate the two concepts. The couple we met identified themselves as poly and were interested in pursuing romantic, love-based connections beyond just sex, in the longer-term.

I wouldn’t identify myself as polyamorous, then nor now, though at the time, it was something I was interested in potentially exploring to see if that type of relationship is something I would want.

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