Am I doing what I want?

That’s a question that is worth asking yourself. It’s something I ask myself on an hourly basis.

How does it work?

Scenario 1:
Am I doing what I want? If the answer is YES, keep doing it.
Scenario 2:
Am I doing what I want? If the answer is no, change something. 
Am I doing what I want? If the answer is no, change something. 
Am I doing what I want? If the answer is no, change something
Am I doing what I want? If the answer is YES, keep doing it.

Why do this?

If you accept that the definition of success is doing what you want, then a successful life is doing what you want all the time — or at least as much as possible.

Does it work?

Yes. The mentally painful task of repeating the question in your head until you turn a no into a yes is surprisingly effective. I’ve found that with enough cycles, I can:

  1. Stop negative thought-loops: Worrying about the future or replaying an angry past event
  2. Shift perspective: Turn a sweaty walk in the hot sun into a relaxing stroll that opens my pores
  3. Tweak my situation: Laugh or smile for no reason — because you really don’t need one

Parting thoughts

It’s important to make the distinction that what you want isn’t necessarily what feels good or what you like. The idea of want is one of ownership. Do you own what you are doing, thinking and feeling?

Give it a try.