How to feel confident and motivated to blog when you are anything but

Truth: I do not feel like blogging every time I sit down to write. Some days a post pours out of me like a waterfall of blogging inspiration, and some days my brain decides to play 20 questions about whether my post idea is good enough or if anyone will share it or if someone else has written about the topic before and probably did a much better job.

And this can make it really difficult to get my blogging expert voice going and crank out a post in a timely fashion.

Luckily those days tend to be few and far between as I’ve gotten into a pretty good groove of publishing every week. But I know for beginner bloggers, running into those confidence-crushing moments can end with putting off posting for days and weeks or never hitting publish at all.

And so I want to share some of my tools (because I want you to hit publish at least once a week, every week with supreme confidence and excitement) that help me get through those low-motivation days and keep my blog updated on a regular basis.

Know that someone will benefit from your story

This is the most important one so I’m putting it first! Whether you’ve just started out or have been blogging for years, watching other people have blogging success (followers, comments, traffic — whatever your success gauge is) can make it difficult to feel good about what you’re putting online.

Here’s the thing: I get thousands of pageviews every day, but most of those people are not going to interact with me at all. And that’s totally OK. You can read my posts and never comment or share or follow and I will sit over here knowing that at least ONE person will get something out of what I write.

At some point, when you find that sweet spot of posting and interacting and promoting, part of your audience WILL show up and give you a sign that they’re listening and stoked about what you’re doing. But for now, remember that even if just ONE person reads your post and benefits, it’s worth it.

Every time you hesitate to hit publish, think about that one person whose problem you’ll solve, who you’ll make laugh (maybe for the first time that day), who will relate to your story and feel better because you took the time to share.

Exercise, eat well, sleep

Personally it’s very hard for me to stay motivated if I skip or scrimp on taking care of myself. I need 8 hours of sleep, I need to eat 4 times/day (or I get impressively hangry), I need to work out at least every other day, and I need to get out of the house and away from my computer at least once/day. It keeps me on top of my game mentally and physically and is crucial during the times my to-do list looks like it was made by a drunken octopus (aka right now).

It’s not some blogging strategy or productivity hack, just a general rule for life. You can’t feel good and be productive if you’re not taking care of yourself. And often if my confidence or motivation is waning, it’s one of those basic self-care things that I’ve stopped.

Dig back into your WHY

Sometimes we lose motivation because we stray too far from why we originally started blogging. We watch too many other bloggers, we try to fit what’s trending, we wonder if we should be on the next new social media platform without checking in with our overall purpose. Your WHY is the reason you blog, it’s who you’re blogging for and what you’re helping them do.

My WHY is about explaining the steps for creating a successful online presence while helping people feel confident in the fact that they have something worthwhile to share. This also happens to be my WHY for teaching aerial classes because I know I’m a badass at breaking challenging things into easy-to-follow steps and then cheering people on when I can see their confidence is wavering.

If you aren’t super clear on your own WHY, I’d recommend Simon Sinek’s book Start With Why and taking some time to think about what you’re doing when you feel most like you’re kicking ass and taking names.

Find a community for support

When I started blogging, NOBODY in my life had a blog or a website or felt the need to share their life or thoughts on the internet. (Social media wasn’t even a thing back then!) And even now, with most of my friends and family at least on Facebook and Instagram, what I do for a living is still a little confusing to many of my IRL peeps.

Finding communities online where I can ask questions, share ideas, and get a boost when I feel like I’m an utter failure is a life saver.

You can join a community specifically for blogging or a community within your niche. And if one doesn’t exist, you should DEFINITELY create your own.

I’m 100% biased, but my Dare to ______ communities are pretty damn awesome.

  • If you’re just starting your blog, join Dare to Blog
  • If you’re starting an email list, join Dare to Email
  • If you’re ready to grow your traffic, list and social media, head over to Dare to Grow

Lastly, remember everyone has those days (or weeks or months)

Even with thousands of readers, followers, and subscribers, I still have days when my confidence is shot. I waste time wondering if I’m doing enough or trying to accomplish too much. When one rude comment pisses me off for an entire day (even though I’ve vowed to just delete and get over it). And my post ideas seem lame and overdone.

Hitting a certain milestone doesn’t guarantee that you’ll suddenly be on your game, posting brilliant content consistently. It definitely gets easier, but whether you have 5 readers or 5 million, you need to find ways to boost your confidence and find your motivation outside of your online presence.

Originally published on XOSarah.com

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