Or maybe he was resentful that he doesn’t have what you and your husband have so he had to degrade, or level it, so he can feel like he’s not missing out. Sometimes I think negative comments, especially hateful pointed comments like his, are made for personal satisfaction. As if by saying negative things about you and your relationship reinforce the idea that he wouldn’t want that for himself anyway. A very feeble attempt to satisfy himself at your expense. I could be totally wrong and he could just be a piece of shit who gets his rocks off by being an abusive keyboard warrior. I could be giving him far too much credit by thinking there might be something deeper behind the comments other than he is a dick. Yes, I think I’ll just conclude that he was a dick.

If I read something that gives me the urge to post negative or judgmental opinions, I don’t post at all. I figure those aren’t topics for my benefit and my posting won’t add anything and would amount to me trying to interject something that would make it to my benefit. That would be rather selfish as well as self indulgent and I try to save those ugly traits for very special occasions. I have only been what I would consider “mean” to one person here and only because that person was extremely rude and dismissive in a response to me. I don’t react well to that form of treatment. Besides, I am certified in Verbal Judo. (don’t laugh, it’s a real thing. lol.)

Frustrating and infuriating as it may be, there are always going to be asshats who take pleasure from your pain. But there are so many more people who will take pleasure from your healing and your strength. You and all of your experiences have value. It would be a shame to allow the heartless few to deprive the rest of us of all that you are and all you have to share. I feel this way about many I have seen lately that are posting similar feelings to yours. I haven’t been here that long but it already feels like so many beautiful bright lights are being extinguished and Medium is slowly becoming a darker place. My hope is that this all will pass and you will all continue to shine.