
How we feel proud and fulfilled.
Summarization of Simon Sinek’s speech “Why Leaders eat last”
Note: I would be referencing to Serotonin Chemical which empowers pride , status , leadership and relationship.
Serotonin is the leadership chemical in humans which is responsible for the feeling of Pride and Status. This is why public recognition is very important because we are social animals and we need recognition of others. This is why we have Oscars, this is why we have public award events , this is why we have commencements for graduation.
I mean think about it , what do we need to be a graduate. Pay the bills, fulfill the minimum requirements, get enough certificates and that’s it! So you can get an email stating
“Congratulations, You fulfill the requirements for graduation. You can find your graduation certificate enclosed”
It won’t feel so good , right ? Instead we have big ceremonies for the recognition and in the audience we put our friends, our family members, our teachers and all those who supported us through out our journey and are pillar strength for us.
And then we show up on that day, holding the diploma certificate. It feels great , we feel our status growing. Serotonin in our veins increase and makes us feel more confident.
The most interesting part in this moment is that when you hold that certificate and feel that serotonin rush in your veins, at the exact same moment your parents and teachers sitting in the audience feel the same urge of serotonin and intense pride watching you graduate.
This is what Serotonin tries to do, it reinforces the relationship between parent and child , between coach and player, between boss and employee.
Think about the speeches we give when we receive the award , first and foremost we thank god, our parents and mentors for giving the guidance and support. We believe without them we couldn't have accomplished the goals. We work to make them proud. Great teams win for the coach and to make the coach proud. And when teachers, parents, and coach watch our efforts transform into success they say “So proud of you!” . That makes us feel proud and raises our status. This is what serotonin does.
Problem is we can trick serotonin! We live in a society where everyone is materialistic. That’s why we have logos on the outer side. Wearing Gucci’s shoes makes us feel million bucks outside. It shows to the society and that’s how society raises our status. However, there was no reinforcement of relationships and we fail to feel content.
This is the reason why we go on earning money and buy good clothes, shoes and what not but we fail to satisfy our self in the end.
To have the pride and fulfillment we all should become leaders and make others proud.
