Completely & Truly Alone

Yasmin Kashfipour
Nov 1 · 4 min read

Happy Halloween Friends!!

Hope you guys are sitting in front of a fire with a glass of wine in hand, a bowl of milk chocolate candy, & a halloween movie — well that’s what I am doing, at least.

Some people think it’s odd if you decide to go to a movie or the mall alone, or if you eat by yourself at a restaurant.. pretty much if you do anything by yourself in society, basically you are a weirdo. Guess, I’m one of those weirdos then; not only do I do these activities by myself — I enjoy them. I definitely have friends to call up and hang out with, but sometimes just need my alone time.

I’m an introvert by heart (lots of you would beg to differ), so I thrive and become energized through the pleasure of my own company — doing activities that I enjoy instead of being surrounded by groups of people. This has greatly contributed to my independence and honestly, I would not have it any other way.

There are phases in life where being completely & truly alone is the greatest blessing — where you are able to learn how you have grown, what your values are in life, and what and who you want in your future. However, I want to stress that there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with being alone for one’s life; I know tons of adults that have chosen a life of solitude and are extremely happy — traveling the world, being there for their families and loved ones, and overall enjoying life.

I was alone for 21 years before I met my first love… I had just enough time to learn what I wanted from a partner by observing the relationships around me, learning who I was as a young adult, and what I wanted in my life long-term. However, after this long relationship and a painful break up, I am back to being alone. One thing I have recently learned though is, I am not alone. I’m loved more than I know — sure it’s not in a romantic way, but at this very moment, that kind of love is not meant for me.

In fact, I am actually relieved to be learning who I am after this long relationship — as I have changed since I was 21.. I am excited to be completely & truly alone — to not have to be emotionally invested in anyone but myself at this phase of my life. After a period of emotional exhaustion, it is time to re-energize and focus my energy on being the best version of myself for those who love me.

How do I plan to spend my alone time you ask? Well.. I will definitely tell you, but if you are also in a phase in your life that you would benefit from being completely & truly alone, learning to fall in love with yourself again, and working on you to make yourself better for others in your life.. then try out some of these suggestions.

1. Travel, Travel Travel — This is the BIGGEST one for me!! It has definitely helped more than I could ever imagine, and not just to get away from it all, but it helps me fall in love with the world and people again. Traveling gives me the strength, hope, and excitement that there is so much more out there beyond Yasmin’s world that I live in. I’m always planning where to go next these days :)

2. Start/Resume a hobby — The more I get the question “So what are your hobbies?” and “What do you like to do for fun?”, the more I ponder over the answer to this, the more I realize that I have very few answers to these questions. I want to resume my art and learn to play the guitar. Try a wild hobby, a crazy adventure, or take a class.

3. Spend time with your loved ones — This is probably the one that helps me the most realize that I am loved and never alone. Spend some time with girlfriends, with your guys, your kids, etc. Have a wine night, host a dinner party, a movie night, a slumber party; whatever allows you to have some fun and enjoy time — not distracted.

These are just a few suggestions.. take them or leave them, but I hope this piece serves as a reminder that you are capable of making you happy — you don’t need another human or love or any attachments to feel happiness. If you find your happiness, you start to attract all the right people in your life. Sometimes in life, you only have a few fleeting moments of being alone.. enjoy these and live happy.

With Love, Yas

Yasmin Kashfipour

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Student of life on a journey to self-discovery. To write is to let go; to let go is to live happy.

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