I Thought Gay Celibacy Was My Only Option — I Was Wrong
Patrick Gothman

Hello Patrick; thanks for sharing so honestly and openly. Many Christians have changed their view of Homosexuality in the light of a much more careful reading of Scripture. The context of those passages calling it a sin is very important as it reveals the reason for that choice. The bottom line is that when homosexuality is called a sin it is often because it is a power issue, which goes against God’s call for justice, or a historical need, such as population growth, or the perpetuation of the patriarchy that drives so much of the Bible. What is lacking in the Bible’s condemnation of homosexuality is it’s relational aspect, and the fact that people do not choose to be Gay or Lesbian. We are who we are from birth, Straight, Bi- Gay, Lesbian, Transgender, but that reality is not addressed in Scripture. Thus, we must look at a much broader picture in order to see where we all fit in. That broader picture is provided by Christ, whose new commandment overrides the old ones: we are called to love one another for who we are. Thus you, me and all humans are called not only to love but to accept each other; homosexuality, or sexuality itself is only sinful when it is used as a tool for power, or for other unholy means. Sex within the context of a loving marriage falls out of that sinful attitude. What matters is the relational aspect of love, not who loves whom. That is why my congregation is fully in favour of changing our denominational law (I belong to the Presbyterian Church In Canada) to include LGBTQ people in both marriage and Ordination rites. I believe that this is the correct way to understand Christ’s love and how the Bible interprets homosexuality. As I said before, sex is only sinful when it falls outside of marriage (and even that is debatable, given the unclear picture Scripture really gives on the topic) or if is abusive or purely for the sake of sex. In other words, one’s sexual orientation is not sinful, nor is sex between to loving, consenting people in a committed relationship.

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