Relationships should evolve

Eddie Cmehil
Nov 7 · 1 min read

One of the most uncomfortable things for me right now is sharing my writing with those closest to me. It’s extremely uncomfortable because I have never written before. That’s not my identity and that’s not what my family’s relationships have been built upon. We’ve shared things like workouts and music, but never our thoughts. Our deep, personal thoughts.

My siblings and I have different and better relationships now than we did a year ago. From the outside, that would seem like a great thing. But it took time and some uncomfortable conversations along the way. It’s still pretty uncomfortable to be honest. Through those conversations and struggle has come a deeper understanding of one another and a bond that’s grown much stronger.

I find the same thing with friends. The number one question when I stopped drinking was, “what’s the effect on your social life?” There’s no doubt that I hang out with my friends less than I did previously. But the conversations we have when we do talk are much more intimate and worth something. I find my most joy when I hear about my friend’s progress and achievements, rather than sitting around in a circle drinking telling stupid stories about how we were so hammered the night before.

The goal is to evolve. If we evolve, so must the relationships we have with others. Some will wither away, some will grow weak, but some will become much stronger.

Eddie Cmehil

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I was consuming too much, so decided to make this to create more. Let’s see how it goes.