How To Make Every Man Want You
First appeared on my personal blog
It’s been such a delight reading Marie Forleo’s “Make Every Man Want You” over the weekend. Trust me, it has got some really delicious content! This book has great insights for becoming an irresistibly attractive woman, not just in your dating life but most areas in life too! I couldn't be selfish enough to keep all these insights to myself but to share some with my readers. My favourite part of the book was the habits of highly unattractive women. Here are some insights on some these habits:
- Drop The Neediness.
Neediness often comes from desperation; wanting it too much. As much as men want to feel loved by their women and often look out if their women truly love them, showing too much of wanting and needing him can be a total turn-off for men. Making excessive calls to him, always wanting his full attention and so throwing silent tantrums whenever you don’t get his full attention, feeling a constant insatiable desire of getting his approval of what you are doing or intend to do, always pouring out to him how much you miss and love him. He may be able to tolerate this for a while but would get tired and fed up with them sooner than later.
Thinking your entire happiness should come from your man or relationship is the basic root cause of these turn-off attitudes. This is a false idea. It makes you give so much of your power to him and puts you in a vulnerable position of your well-being being constant at his mercy. Men admire and want women of power, women who can still be their own star without them and rendering yourself powerless is anything but irresistible.
2. Be Less Of An Insecure Woman
It’s normal to sometimes have insecure feelings in a relationship. Aside the area of relationship, we all do feel “not good enough” sometimes, this is natural. Entertaining these insecure feelings, making them your constant thoughts and constantly voicing them out to your partner gradually paints you unattractive. Make sure to ask smart and strategic questions if you have doubts concerning certain issues or actions of his. Observe, listen and understand them and just end it there. Constant complaints and nagging would push him far away from you, no doubts about that!
If you are insecure due to your size, appearance etc, spend time to improve upon them to make them better. It’s either you are doing something about the situation or you shutting up, simple. Entertaining insecure thoughts can create a bottomless pit which no amount of assurance can fill. Not entertaining insecure thoughts is a learnable skill to acquire if you want to be irresistible. Why invest in self-doubt when you can invest in your irresistibility?
3. Don’t Slack In Your Appearance Game
Why do you portray negligence in your appearance because you already have him? The relevance of composing yourself properly and taking care of yourself as a woman cannot be underestimated. Some women get too comfortable in their relationship and stop trying to look attractive. Don’t forget that men usually think of and follow what they see. As Marie emphasised, Some men may be sympathetic for a little while, but for many, this lack of caring is the trigger to stray! Put your appearance in check and that includes your personal hygiene, which includes breath, teeth, smell and of course down there!
Who wants to adore Miss sloppy and unkempt? Irresistible women always keep themselves fresh and clean!
4. Make Yourself Valuable
This is a core basic principle of life. Anyone who provides value is always needed. You have been hired and being rewarded with your salary because you are providing some value to your company. People want you around them because of the value you give them.
Many women are much concerned about themselves and what help and assistance they can get from their men. This attitude can be so much addictive that you tend to forget about how to help him also.
Your relationship is no exception. Be concerned about the success of your man. Know his dreams, help him set goals and be involved in helping him make those achievements. This could be done in several ways; getting him necessary books concerning his goals, giving meaningful insights on things that matter to him or even just motivating him in any way you can.
No matter what you do and how you do it, just make sure you are adding some value to his life. This is one sure way of being the irresistible woman every man wants!
5.Get A Life And Keep It!
As Maria said, “One of the biggest secrets to magnetizing men is to have and keep a full life.” And that’s so true. Men usually don’t want women who refuse to have a life, who make their man the only life they have. In the early stages of a relationship, the eagerness to see and spend time with your man is strong. That is so normal to feel that way.
However, try including your new romance into your already existing life. Expand your world, don’t shrink to only fit into his! Time apart between two mature and complete adults fuels deeper conversations and deepens love.
Don’t cut out your friends, career, passions and family just for your relationship. You can still have your full life with your relationship. An irresistible woman can be on top of her career and social game, whilst queening in her relationship also!
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