Fat can be fixed. If people are fat, they will be judged for it.
Sumant Manne
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Fat can be fixed. Nice lack of compassion and you missed the point completely. Whether or not “fat can be fixed” isn’t the point. Bullying, teasing, belittling, degrading does nothing but shaming, and that lacks compassion and understanding. It shouldn’t matter what a person looks like. They are a person with feelings and dreams and insecurities and fears just like everyone else. Everything about a the way a person looks can be fixed.

Too fat? There’s a fix for that (usually). Too thin? Fix for that. Crooked teeth? Mismatched clothes? Thinning hair? Saggy boobs? Acne? It all can be “fixed”. But does it all need to be? Does “fixing” all those physical things “fix” a person? Does it make them a better person to be perfectly “fixed”?

The whole point of the post was that we, collectively as human beings, get off on judging others. We all have our faults. No one likes to have them pointed out, and especially made fun of. Try understanding before judging and watch your compassion rise. You, nor anyone else, knows what struggles a person has gone through, is going through. Judging someone by how they look closes the door on the conversation before it begins. It dismisses them without even getting to know the real person. It says “I think they are less of a person because they don’t look like I want them to look like. They don’t look like what would make me more comfortable to look at them. They are an eye sore and should know better than to assault my vision with their imperfections.” It also says “I am a shallow, judgmental ass that only wants to see what I want to see and that person should be ashamed to invade my visual space with their grossness.” Assumptions are made before all the data is gathered (and you know what they say about assuming…). If someone looks at a fat person, or someone with scars, or someone super thin, or someone with thinning hair, or clothes that don’t match, or whatever, and instantly judges them less worthy because of how they look, then the person judging has the bigger problem than the person they are judging.

I’m not saying we all don’t do it. I do it. And I catch myself and realize that if I want to fix the problem I need to be part of the solution. I make a conscious effort to be a better person by realizing that no one is perfect and no matter what can be “fixed” it isn’t up to us to judge whether or not any given person needs to be fixed. It’s something everyone should remember, because as we are judging others, someone is judging us. And we don’t like it when the shoe is on the other foot.

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