Change

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending

To most people, change is one of the scariest things that they can come across. No matter how big or small the change could be, it scares the shit out of us. But one thing I’ve noticed about people is that they focus more on the change itself than what can happen due to the change. Why? Because people don’t like change as it forces us to step out of our lives that we have already settled into and are comfortable with.

However some of the most important changes in life are always the most painful and this is also a cause of why people hate dealing with change so much. When I was 6 years old my parents got divorced and I’m pretty sure that everyone has this perfect picture on how their family should be and how it should never be broken apart. So as my picture perfect family got torn apart so did part of me. Part of me use to hate my parents and my step parents for breaking my family apart, however the more I grew up, the more I realized that them breaking up and moving on was the best decision for everyone. This has taught me that change can be extremely painful but sometimes you have to go through pain in order to grow as a person and realize what you really want out of life. My parents getting divorced has taught me how to deal with relationship and even though we think that we have found “the one” sometimes we are wrong and we shouldn’t restrict ourselves to change just because it makes someone else happy because if you aren’t happy than your life will be a constant misery.

I actually just recently got asked how to deal with a broken heart. I’ve honestly never really had a serious relationship but I’ve defiantly had my fair share of heart break. I think we are all resistant of letting go and moving on from someone because of how comfortable we are with that person. Anyone that really knows me, knows that “one guy” that will forever be the hardest person for me to get over and I think we will always have that one person that we would do anything to have a second shot with. Whenever I think about the time of trying to get over him I realized I was so stuck on him because of how comfortable I was around him and thought I could never be that comfortable and truly be around myself with another guy. However what I find myself telling people now is that there a million of people out there that you will meet in your life time, so don’t waste your time trying to change something that is forever changed because you will find someone else that will make you feel the same way and more.

But most of the time change can have a positive effect on people. I’m currently half way through my studying experience here in Malaysia and I couldn’t think of a better change for me. So far I’ve learnt some of the greatest life lessons that will stick with me forever. I’ve learnt that it’s okay to open up to people that you have only known for a day. I’ve learnt that you can stick out like a sore thumb but you should never let that effect the way you life your life.

This has lead me to the greatest lesson of all, you should never change yourself to please other people. People will love you or hate you no matter who you are, so you might as well be yourself. Never do something or be someone to fit in because living that life won’t get you far in life, trust me. I’ve tried one too many times to “fit in” and it has lead me to the same place every time, depression. When you try to be a certain person to please people you always catch yourself in this dark place, constantly trying to keep up with this act you are putting on for people. Then when people finally open up to you, you start to feel this darkness overcome you because you realize that you can’t truly be yourself or else people will catch you in your act, leading to more problems

So my advice to people, the one thing you should never change is yourself but changing the things in your life will maximize your experience in this crazy thing we call life because who knows where the change will lead you.