What I’ve learned from my first one year relationship

When I met my partner I had no expectations for a relationship. From experiences usually turning sour I’ve learned to never take somebody’s word for it, but their consistent actions to prove that their words had meaning. What I’ve realized was that we accept the way we are treated because we think that’s what we deserve. I’ve struggled with this because I didn’t value myself or know my worth for a really long time. I didn’t know what I deserved. In past relationships I let others decide for me what my standards were for myself. So when I started dating my partner it was hard to believe that someone had appreciated me for nothing more then simply who I was. Why does this seem so hard to believe? It took me a whole year and him leaving to the military to make me realize why that was.

The 3 realizations I had to why I didn’t believe someone could value me and the 3 lessons I’ve learned along the way.

3 realizations

1. I didn’t value myself

2. I didn’t spend a lot of time with myself

3. I wasn’t always living in the moment

3 lessons I learned

1. To care for yourself in order for others to

2. To invest in yourself and your individuality

When you are going to spend the rest of your life with yourself for certain you should love yourself! Your identity is your independence and freedom that makes your life more meaningful. Him deciding to go to the military taught me many things. To follow your passion and work hard to become the best version of yourself the way you know how. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

3. To be present and focus on the now



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Bella Tran 🦋

Bella Tran 🦋

Writer and artist I love writing about my epiphanies, experiences, thoughts, and relationships. “When you love what you have, you have everything you need.”