Your Invisible Illness Is Valid
Sam Escobar

My invisible pain is all sorts of trauma and re-traumatization, then being constantly criticized, mocked, and treated as if I am not worthy of even the most fundamental of my needs and rights being respected.

Here are some links to accounts of my invisible pain, that continue to be almost wholly ignored by friends, family, mental health “professionals,” media, and so on.

In 2014–15 when I worked as an au pair and was systematically bullied and mistreated by a wealthy French family who lied compulsively in order to try to gain the upper hand.

Abusers who exploited me and conned me out of thousands of euros are the cause of my invisible pain.

Another source of invisible pain is friends and family hurting me, invalidating me, and mentally breaking me when they insist and claim to be “helping”

I think this is the best descriptive painting of my invisible pain, that causes me to constantly be put down, put out, and marginalized beyond the understanding and perception of “friends,” family, and the “professionals” who are supposed to help, but NEVER do.

I have been constantly insulted, degraded, treated as if I am inferior, as if something is wrong with me, when really the fact that those claiming to “help” and instead hurt are the real problem.

People pathologizing me is a perpetual source of invisible pain. Any amount of therapy I get will not change the diseases in our society that cause people to act so evil, so prejudiced, with so much gratuitous and self-congratulatory misogyny.

My invisible pain is being a scapegoat, and also brave enough to try to understand the ways that prejudices enable abuse, and how the dominant discourse hides this.

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