The most effective way to break connection and destroy trust with the person, with whom you are talking: judging! 👩⚖️
The most effective way to break connection and destroy trust with the person, with whom you are talking: judging! 👩⚖️
Few days ago, I met a lady during a networking event. She is a very nice and successful entrepreneur at heart, however one trait of hers makes it difficult for me to connect with her.
When I shared with her my experiences, understanding and ideas, she judged a lot by saying: ‘That’s not right’, ‘What I know is……’, ‘Why you do not do this or that?’……
Well, as a Vipassana meditator 😃, I did not react to these judgements with frustration, or anger, or hatred. I just observed how things were happening as they were and thought what I could learn from it. Here is my learning:
To connect with a person, I should never judge him/her based on my own limited experiences and understanding of the world. Because I
😊 do not have the same experiences as the person with whom I am talking. So I can not think in their way. It is ok.
😊 do not need to accept their thinking.
😊 know what he/she thinks makes sense for him/her.
😊 should not try to change people and force them to think like me.
😂 Plus I do not get paid as a judge
This experience shows me how powerful Vipassana meditation in business is and also teaches me how to connect with people deeply.
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