photo credit Averie Woodard

I recently received a wedding invitation in which the bride and groom had taken the opportunity to have a little fun with the RSVP card. In addition to being able to reply with the usual “enthusiastically attend” or “regretfully decline,” options to “regretfully attend” and “enthusiastically decline” had also been listed. I checked off the first box, opting to save my bad behavior for the main event.

Weddings are meant to be joyous affairs and most of us give our acceptance to join in the festivities heartily, but attendance comes with a to-do list. Even when money is not a…


The Road to Realizing Your Dream is Littered with Haters

photo credit Andreas Selter

“If you’re going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don’t even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift.” — Charles Bukowski

Following your dream is an act of empowerment. In a world where most people are still struggling to figure out what even makes them passionate, veering from the beaten path to pursue a calling is a daring move.


photo credit Oleg Sergeichik

Networking for the Shy, Introverted, and Sleaze-Averse

As a shy child I dreaded any activity that required an introductory game. Birthday parties, bar mitzvahs, and youth group mixers were attended with the resignation that the first half hour would involve enduring some sadistic adult’s idea of fun. I would do my best to disappear against the wall or attempt to excuse myself to the bathroom. Eventually, I would be shamed into compliance, made to sit cross-legged with all the others as I rubbed my damp palms on the knees of my jeans.

I’m not sure why I found making small talk so daunting at that age. Selling…


all images courtesy of Zara

On her Thursday visit to a Texas children’s immigration center, Melania Trump wore a piece of clothing that some are touting as “the jacket heard round the world.” The garment, a $37 find from Spanish fast-fashion retailer Zara, featured military styling and was emblazoned with the words “I really don’t care, do u?” on the back

Critics have come out to take the first lady to task at promoting such a message while confronting the serious issue of asylum-seeking children being separated from their families, citing the jacket as tone-deaf, inappropriate, and offensive. …


Legitimizing The Voices Of The Marginalized Begins With Supporting Their Art

The canvas had been painted with the regal portrait of Thomas Jefferson then draped and folded back to reveal another portrait behind it. A sullen Sally Hemings peers forth, her bare shoulder and leg exposed, irritation and resentment just beneath her placid expression. It’s a powerful piece.

In Behind The Myth Of Benevolence, Titus Kaphar seeks to question how history has remembered Jefferson as a color-blind progressive while rewriting Hemings as the willing recipient of his advances. It is part of a larger exhibition featuring works by Kaphur and Ken Gonzales-Day entitled Unseen: Our Past in a New Light at…


Photo by Sam Manns

Why Your Friendships Could Be Costing You Your Financial Freedom

There is a common belief that friends and money don’t mix. Money has a way of complicating the dynamic of relationships, and the imbalance of power can strain even the strongest of bonds. Popular advice recommends resisting lending friends money altogether, or at least not any you care about losing.

One awkward experience is enough to convince most of us to keep friends and finances separate. However, now more than ever, we don’t live inside a vacuum. Jim Rohn famously said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.” Our output, performance, thinking, and…


Photo by Edu Lauton

“Especially when you’ve only eaten one meal all day.”

My partner had praised the dinner I had made the three of us, and this was my father’s response to that compliment. We were staying with him, and though I had never really cooked for him as a child living under his roof, I had been making us all two meals daily almost since we had arrived.

Not today though. Today I had emphatically slept in. Nudged by arthritic aches and a tickle starting in the back of my throat, I had shunned my self-prescribed duties. I rolled over. …


Defy Entrepreneurial Burnout With A Dynamic New Business Strategy

Photo by Joanna Kosinska

How are you?

When is the last time you responded with anything other than “busy?”

For all the conveniences our modern world has given us, it has also raised our expectations, forcing entrepreneurs to perform like corporations to remain competitive. Marketing a small business once consisted of offering a good product or service at a fair price and relying on the reputation you built.

Our clients were once our neighbors; we now contend globally. At all hours. With ratings.


Why Leaders Of Successful Teams Can Be Found On The Sidelines

Black Rainbow by Angela Hennessy

I once had a boss scold me for failing to greet my coworkers when I arrived at work.

I had managed a restaurant before (it’s astounding how easy it is to earn a set of keys in the hospitality industry), but this was my first big promotion, complete with business cards and a company email. I responded that, as the manager working swing shift, I didn’t think it appropriate to interrupt people I had just seen twelve hours ago. Tact hasn’t always been a strong suit.

My mistake was not in assuming staff was too busy to be bothered (they…


How Caring About Your Goals Makes You Less Likely To Achieve Them

Cuenca, Ecuador’s Centro Histórico

In 2017 I left a successful career as a restaurant manager to work for myself. Hospitality, when done well, is an act of endurance; of tirelessly putting out fires. After two decades of rewarding but unceasing work in the hot zone, my personal life was collapsing under the pressure.

My partner and I simultaneously decided to resuscitate our aspirations of careers in writing, a dream I had suppressed to better choke down the pill of conventionally-accepted maturity, and the financial stability presumed to go with it. I now resolved to clear the overgrowth from my path, despite the back-breaking work…

Yvette Benhamou

editor at twobytour.com, writer, hospitality veteran, sandwich enthusiast, enjoys travel, mezcal and making misogynists uncomfortable

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