How to beat your despair

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Dreaming big. Imagining the wildest opportunities and chasing them. Excitement and euphoria at the thought of accomplishing something new, something different. Does it not look familiar? Of course, we’ve all been through those moments, and we still do. And sometimes we cannot figure out how this would work out in a concrete context, how to continue developing it, so we give up on a dream, on an opportunity, on a potential life-changing event.

The path from vision to reality is quite challenging, but if there are no obstacles and difficulties, would it be as gratifying? It all starts out with a random idea, which nests itself and develops in our mind, growing slowly but surely. You become gradually more and more motivated, you feel that this idea would make a difference somewhere, would it be in your life, or in other people’s lives. You start working on it, you devote yourself to this project, and as time passes by, you start hitting multiple dead ends. You start questioning the feasibility of the project, the purpose behind it all, you even start questioning yourself. This is all natural, but when you begin thinking about leaving everything behind because it is not worth your effort anymore, you have to remember two things :

  • You are just a couple of steps away from realizing your dream, your project.
  • Opportunities do not disappear, it’s the illusion of failure that makes it look this way.
“There are five important things for living a successful and fulfilling life: never stop dreaming, never stop believing, never give up, never stop trying, and never stop learning.”
― Roy Bennett

A dead end is just there to challenge you, to remind you that nothing comes easy in life. There’s always a way out, and the only thing separating you from it is you. Work, search abundantly and try new things. Do not be afraid to venture in the unknown. You grow up, both mentally and spiritually, during this period. You learn to manage the obstacles, the unexpected events and everything that came or might come in your way while working. It can only be beneficial, no matter how hard you worked for it. As the true Game of Thrones fan that I am, I’ll allow myself to quote George R.R. Martin :

“A bruise is a lesson… and each lesson makes us better.”

And not to forget that the personal satisfaction that comes with the accomplishment of this goal is indescribable.

This scenario has been experienced by a lot of successful people. Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking creativity”. He persevered, created his first animation company then was forced to close it after the close of an important partner. He did not quit. He did not give up. He went on and found his way to Hollywood, where he faced criticism and failure, until his first few films gained enormous popularity. You know the rest of the story, as his company skyrocketed afterwards. Henry Ford, the creator of Ford Motor Company, also struggled through failures, but he never stopped trying, and all this came to fruition when he finally succeeded in creating an affordable car.

This could be you, so go on, persevere and you’ll find the right path leading to success.