Focus On The Habits & The Results Will Come
“Good habits are worth being fanatical about.” (John Irving)
Understand: We must only focus on our habits. If we can focus on our habits and keep our end goal in mind then the results that we want will eventually come with time.
The reason why we must focus on our habits is because that is what makes up our actions within the world. Habits are simply the unconscious acts that we consistently carry out, every single day. These actions are what bring us the results that we get in every area of our lives.
Let’s go through a few examples of how this would work:
If you want to become a good writer then cultivate the habit of writing every single day. From there, the results will eventually manifest.
If you want to become strong and healthy in terms of your physique then cultivate the habit of hitting the gym 3–4 times per week. From there, the results will manifest.
If you want to become wealthy then cultivate the habit of tracking your monthly spending and automate your savings. From there, the results will manifest.
If you want to become a good pool player then cultivate the habit of playing 7 days a week. From there, the results will manifest.
If you want to develop a deep relationship with someone then cultivate the habit of communicating with them on a daily basis. From there, the results will manifest.
If you want to eat healthier food then cultivate the habit of cooking your meals at home. From there, the results will manifest.
In all cases, there needs to be a cultivation of whatever habit will move you closer to your desired outcome. Behavior is where the rubber meets the road.
Below, we’ll discuss the topic of patience in regards to this process.
The Importance Of Patience
During the process of cultivating these high quality habits, we must practice the critical skill of patience.
Understand that whatever you want to achieve will take time:
You can’t reverse 30 years of unhealthy eating with 1 year of healthy eating.
You can’t reverse years of financial illiteracy with 6 months of financial literacy.
You can’t gain muscle mass in one week of effort.
There is no way around being patient because results will naturally take time. The focus for all of us must be on these two things:
Cultivating the habit every single day
Practicing patience in the form of understanding the bigger perspective on achievement and how long it takes
The Definition Of Patience
Patience is defined as the capacity to accept delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
So, do you have the capacity to accept delay, trouble, or suffering on your journey to the results you would like without getting angry or upset? This question will determine your ability to ultimately achieve.
Here’s a simple and yet powerful practice in patience: The next time you get delayed and experience trouble or suffering, stop and feel the moment. During this moment, ask yourself, “Can I practice patience right now?”
If “Yes,” then great and move on without anger.
If “No,” then it’s no big deal. Move on to the next opportunity to deploy patience.
Below, we’ll go through how most people deal with their habits and results.
The Conventional Approach
The majority of people are always confused as to why they get the results that they get. This, if you are well-versed in the arena of human psychology, is no mystery.
The majority of people get unconscious results when they practice habits that were unconsciously cultivated. Here are a few examples of how this normally plays out:
If you unconsciously cultivate the habit of eating unhealthy food then you will, over time, manifest disease and negative results into your life.
If you unconsciously cultivate a habit of blaming your wife then you will, over time, destroy your marriage.
If you unconsciously cultivate a habit of spending more money then you make then you will become broke.
If you unconsciously cultivate the habit of eating sugar and not brushing your teeth then tooth decay will be the natural result of your actions.
What we cultivate, persists and the results naturally come with time.
The majority of people blame external circumstances as opposed to taking full responsibility for their results.
In order for you to create the results that you would like, personal responsibility is a must. You must leave everything at your own feet and improve.
The other side of taking personal responsibility is victim-hood. To be a victim is to live a miserable life and if we understand this then that is not the place that we would like to end up in.
Most people are unconscious of their habits and the results that those habits manifest.
The solution to this is to practice awareness over one’s habits and the results that those habits will manifest. This requires that you develop the ability to differentiate between high quality habits and low quality habits.
Here are a couple questions that will help you out:
“Will this habit support me or not?”
“What are the practical results of this habit?”
“Does this habit make me feel good or bad?”
“What have others experienced results wise in terms of engaging in this habit?”
These questions will help you differentiate between healthy habits and unhealthy habits on your journey.
Take control of the actions that you repeat every single day because they will dictate your future results.
There is a quote that goes something like, “Man doesn’t decide his future. He decides his habits and then his habits decide his future.” This is the power of habits.
Your habits are the biggest leverage point when it comes to taking control of your results in life so take advantage.